General Wishing I Had My Hubby Back

[Kay1]

I am hating PTSD more than every this week and wishing I had the man I married back. I know that it is the PTSD, but I have cried more this week than I have in the past year and it is becuase I finally admitted to his family and my family that there is a big problem and he has PTSD and the anger and violence that comes with it is becoming more active and that I can't reach him anymore.

He comes home and finds things to be upset about and picks on everyone and then blames me when I step in and calmly tell him to take 5 minutes and walk away. My poor girls are dealing the best way they can, but I am so tired of hearing "what is wrong with Daddy and Mommy are you ok?" I know they care and just want everything to go back to normal. The worst picking he does is right before bedtime when things are calm...I am still trying to figure out why he starts to nitpick things at bedtime becuase during the day things are pretty clam...any suggestions?

He has agreed to go to the VET center and I pray that this will help him, but I know that unless he wants to do this, nothing will help. I have slowly started to detach myself from the anger and not take it personal...but sometimes it is so damn hard. I am not going to walk away from this relationship as I love my husband, but I am just venting (which seems I need to do it more lately..sorry everyone!).

 

[Fargo1]

Kay,

I wish I knew what to tell you. But you gotta take care of yourself and the girls. Because you can't help anyone else if you are not ok. So please, take care of yourself.

As for your husband. He has got to want help. Otherwise it is a battle lost before it even begins. I want help, and I still have my moments more than every now and again!

Lastly, if you need to vent. Vent. Don't be sorry about it. It is the whole reason for everyone being here!

 

[Ladyhope Somerset]

I am hating PTSD more than every this week and wishing I had the man I married back. I know that it is the PTSD, but I have cried more this week than I have in the past year and it is becuase I finally admitted to his family and my family that there is a big problem and he has PTSD and the anger and violence that comes with it is becoming more active and that I can't reach him anymore.

He has agreed to go to the VET center and I pray that this will help him, but I know that unless he wants to do this, nothing will help. I have slowly started to detach myself from the anger and not take it personal...but sometimes it is so damn hard. I am not going to walk away from this relationship as I love my husband, but I am just venting (which seems I need to do it more lately..sorry everyone!).

Hi Kay, Vent away sweetie and as Fargo says please take care of yourself. He shouldn't become the focus of your life to the exclusion of all else.

Good news he agreed to go to VET centre. What country are you. I'm in England so I can share experiences with you but if you are elsewhere in the world there are others here who have knowledge in other countries.

Keep in touch as we all help and support when we can.