It amazes me, to some extent, how we all perceive ourselves as less then what most other's perceive. Thinking that we are not worthy. I don't believe that most of us would perceive that of another person. Obviously, by these comments and by the thought that the person put into the gift, you are both worthy. The lady who complimented your smile, didn't have to do so. The person who put extra thought into that gift for you didn't have to. The point is that they did. We have to learn to accept these moments because, when we don't, we are not giving credit to those who thought enough of us to show it. It is like we are shunning their feelings and whether they actually have a brain to make these decisions. We are discrediting them. I know we do not want to do that, at least I don't think we mean to do that. I know I don't.
Now, saying all this, doesn't mean I am perfect in accepting people's niceties. I have to remind myself that they don't necessarily see me as I see me. It is very difficult. The bad messages and worthlessness are still there. I just try to keep in mind that they mean well and that I shouldn't discredit what they feel or say. Afterall, I think most of my thinking of myself tends to be on the distorted side. I try to allow myself the happiness that can come from other's actually thinking that I am worth it.
I wish for both of you and all of us to realize our worth...the honest worth, not the distorted one.
