You Have Nothing To Be Depressed About!

[Nicolette]

I bought a gun on Sunday

Am I right in presuming you mean you shoot as a 'sport' to take out your frustrations or are you saying you are suicidal and the gun is for that purpose?

 

[Abstract]

I have nothing to be depressed about. makes it worse.

((((Britt)))
Having one chronic illness is enough to make a lot of people depressed let alone more than one and having a history of trauma and PTSD. There is always good reason for depression when it occurs.

Hugs if Ok.

 

[Abstract]

gun for when you need to vent

I have to say I wanted to check on the same thing that Nicollete did. Is there anything you are trying to say indirectly or directly here?

 

[Britt.f7]

Very nice gun for when you need to vent frustration, rage or anxiety.

I hate guns, even for just shooting. I do understand how people can enjoy them. I do, however, after what you wrote earlier, hope you are meaning for recreation and not suicide or homicide for that matter.

 

[nimkekaa]

A lot of us are feeling concerned for you tphillips. Please let us know that you are ok.

 

[Britt.f7]

Hugs if Ok.

Yes they are always okay. :hug:

My mind works in mysterious ways because I always wonder why people ask if it is okay, including when I do, because I think well if the person doesn't want them they don't have to take them so why ask and just give and then my mind goes around and around with this and at some point finally stops to move onto another topic. :confused::barefoot::laugh:

BTW,off topic, Abstract I made the appointment with the nutritionist for tomorrow.

 

[nimkekaa]

I always wonder why people ask if it is okay

I think it's because in person some people will hug you without asking and invade your personal space. So, I personally don't want anyone to feel like I'm one of those people that just do it without asking. Even though this is cyber space I want you to feel that I respect your space and your words and your power to say "no".

Just my thought on it.

 

[Britt.f7]

Just my thought on it.

Now if we could just quiet my mind on all of that and more, I'd be in business.

I think it is also because I think everyone already shows much respect that, for me, it's a given that they wouldn't do it (in person) if I didn't want to. I feel that everyone one on here seems to respect another's space that the idea of asking for what seems like a given seems ludicrous to me.

But don't worry, my mind has arguments both for and against that and most subjects. I truly do feel like this icon at times: :confused:

 

[Abstract]

I made the appointment with the nutritionist

I hope you didn't feel bullied! ;) I have to say I am relieved though. Good luck!

And Nimkekaa explained the hug issue perfectly. It's a matter of respecting someones boundaries and acknowledging that for some it can feel like a step too far or even worse be triggering. Especially in an environment where are talking about emotive things such as a site like this one. I think we tend to be a little vulnerable when talking about private information. Good to hear you welcome them!

 

[tphillips117]

Everyone, I'm ok. Thank you for your concern. Yes, I shoot for sport at a range. I also have my CHP permit, so I can conceal carry in my state legally. I am not suicidal, although there are times when ideation gets the best of me. For that reason, having the gun is probably not a good idea, but I must have the gun to feel safe, and hopefully I can control my impulses.

 

[Nicolette]

Thank you Tphillips117 for alleviating our concern with your clarification :)

 

[Abstract]

for me, it's a given that they wouldn't do it (in person) if I didn't want to

But for some even via the web something like a hug can feel like an invasion. And often people will automatically accept a hug that they don't feel comfortable with in real time too. That's the interesting/wonderful/complicated thing about humans - we all react totally differently. And because we can't mindread there is no way of knowing if something is wanted or not.

I remember the moment I truly realised how differently we all process things. It was a revelation and made me realise how important it was to communicate what was happening in my head. Why others can't be expected to guess it.

And I almost always feel like that icon!