Your Serene Face

[Abstract]

hhmm. So that was said to me quite a lot in my life. So incongruous. Not from family I hasten to add. Saw a video taken of me recently (video=yuck) and what is now there is fundamentally a constant look of disgust. Not surprising I suppose as I feel constant disgust/revulsion at myself and about stuff. Its the almost constant given in a sense. Trouble is that it probably looks like disdain and disgust about those around me. So not me. Quite embarrassing.

The Serene Face it seems was rather Dissociation Face. Always wondered disconcertedly when it was said. Weid.

 

[ILoveLife]

Relatable.
I'm being said this a lot recently. I do not feel serene at all... lol..

Wonder if it's my Resting Bitch Face and they don't know how to recognize it.

 

[ladee]

I have been told most of my life, I have an 'aggressive' face, or expression on my face. Of course I don't notice it because I'm not looking at myself in public.Or at home for that matter.

I am usually deep in thought, regardless if I'm running an errand or have to meet a friend for lunch. At first I felt it was ridiculous to make 'sure' I had a 'happy face' on when in public.

I am in chronic pain, and when walking, have to watch where I'm walking as to not fall. So, to me, I'm concentrating on not falling. Not scowling at the world.

It used to be eyes darting and looking for danger at all times in all places.

The conclusion I have come to is this... if the expression on my face bothers others, then don't look!!! I don't judge me, I'm just living my life.

I don't know if this has anything to do with your post or not. Forgive me if I've gotten this wrong, very foggy brained today.

 

[Abstract]

I do not feel serene at all... lol..

No Sietz? ;)

Wonder if it's my Resting Bitch Face and they don't know how to recognize it.

? I guess there are probably advantages and disadvantages to that!

I have an 'aggressive' face, or expression on my face

Ouch ladee. :(

I am in chronic pain, and when walking, have to watch where I'm walking as to not fall. So, to me, I'm concentrating on not falling. Not scowling at the world. It used to be eyes darting and looking for danger at all times in all place

Makes total sense! Its cool you just accept you. As you should.

Think my previous so called serene face was actually zombie face.

I definitely don't have that said to me anymore! And no wonder after seeing myself. ? Its a shame to be sending out messages we dont mean though isnt it? I look like I need to scrape someone off my shoe. I do but its me. and other stuff. ?

Its a quandary. Didn't feel authentic before but at least could keep my "stuff" to myself! Now i'm better its spilling all over the place... ?including onto other peoples shoes. ?

Maybe we need to hand out translation sheets wherever we go. PTSD body language translation 101.

 

[somerandomguy]

I have permanent wrinkles between my eyebrows from my angry face, which is also my normal everyday face.

 

[Abstract]

Hear you sometandomguy. Are you angry do you think? Is it an accurate reflection?

 

[ladee]

Like the idea of a body language hand out @Abstract !!!! Would work for all sorts of situations...

I too have deep creases @somerandomguy , but I have told people it's because I stay in a state of "WHAT?"... Like always trying to figure things out... to understand.

I was told for many years, also, that people could not read my face at all. Maybe it's the Zombie face, sans the blood and stuff, that Abstract was referring to..But then the " I will kill you' face was there for many years.

Now I'm just old and no one pays much attention anymore.. as we age, we become invisible in this society.

But the Serene face, I'm pretty sure I've not ever been accused of having that one!!!

 

[somerandomguy]

Huh. Wow, that's a good question. I don't think so.

But I guess I have two modes: a million miles an hour or exhausted. I think when I'm going a million miles an hour I tense everything up, especially my face, which makes me look angry.

Hmm. This is a really interesting thread. I've never thought about this stuff before.

 

[Chris-duck]

Apparently I naturally look happy and/or confused ? But I think it's from -trying- to look happy and now my face is confused about what expression it's meant to have ??

 

[ladee]

???? @Chris-duck !!!! Ya, I forgot about 'confused'.....

 

[Ronin]

I been told I look sad, quite often.

Except when I am happy, then I just look pissed off.
(And conversely, when I am pissed off, I look happy.) :facepalm:

Dunno, Abstract, I would focus on feeling better, more than looking like anything. As that is for those other people to sort, not blame you for, nor blame yourself for.

 

[ILoveLife]

I have a natural angry look too.
I'm not sure about looking happy - but I do smile a lot. Sometimes I smile to myself, or reading a book or something.. people apparently find that odd.