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[Loveyourselfalways]

Did u ever want to talk about what happened but feel like no one will believe you?

 

[smyh]

All the time.

 

[Sideways]

Every time I talk about it!

 

[Ronin]

Their belief or disbelief doesn't matter.
I know what happened. Or, where I have pieces, I have a way to corroborate that & get to know.

What someone that's never lived my life has to say about events distant to their understanding is not my deal.

 

[shimmerz]

but feel like no one will believe you?

lol. I don't feel like someone will believe me. Been there, done that. Thought people would know I wasn't lying, but alas, it was more than they could take. Now I am quiet about it.

 

[lostforgottensoul]

My entire life!

Unfortantly no does believe me but my therapist, people on this site, and sort of my step mom but my dad doesnt and neither does my entire family on my dad's side. I dont know my mom's side. But thats my story, not yours and it helps me that my therapist says a lot "i believe you and this is why..." and then my step mom just recently told my dad that i wouldnt have 'list of issues' if it didnt happen. Its hard because my mom has & step dad had (now dead) good real world faces so its easy to say "they are nice people, they would never"...but they did.

I got to a point where my dad and i were watch Dr Phil about something very close to my past (he does a lot of stories of this subject & its the only reason i watch him, for my dad to see when this happen then you will generally have these set of issues) and he made a comment like "they are so brave arent they" and i said something about it happening to me and he said "im not talking about you" and i just started uncontrolablly screaming "it happened to me, it happened to me" over and over.

Its sort of the elaphant in the room that we dont talk about (my dad & step mom live with me) and it would be so nice if my dad believed me; especially since he left me there but i have to learn how to get better without him believing and without him taking responsiblity of leaving me there and missing res flags.

It took me going to my therapist for an entire year and another tv Dr to help me tell my therapist why i was really there due to this.

So coming from someone that had my entire family abandon me because i told the truth, my dad invailidates me daily as does the rest of my family, took a year to tell my therapist...its worth telling, regardless if people believe you or not. If i didnt 'come clean' with it soon it would of killed me and i vaildate me. I do that myself. I did need some support, needing support coming from every pore of my being and so my therapist found this site accidently so i lean on this site for support (like a support group but virtual as im terrified of people in real life) for now and it helps a lot to have people in here not just believe me but can relate to me, my issues, some of my past, and my feelings and thoughts.

Sorry for the long answer. Its just so complicated of what happened when i came out of denial and though i often wish i could go back to those 'no one knew' days, not healing was taking place, just pushing down so im glad i 'came clean' even though it cost me my entire family.

Also im sort of an extreme example of what could happen and even with it, im glad i did and i can heal without anyone believing me.

 

[Ronin]

glad i did and i can heal without anyone believing me.

^^ Wise words.