Platitudes?

[Ronin]

I'm not sure if my platitudes are a waste of keystrokes

No, and if they are, there are those whose keystrokes are a lot more waste, in a lot more obvious, and in a lot more annoying or dangerous ways.

So please put these worries to rest.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

I used to really loathe the people who used simple cliches but I have finally learnded to be more tolerant if I am not being overreactive that to take a moment to just say thank you and move on far away if possible. I hope that this is what the OP had in mind.

 

[Tinyflame]

say thank you and move on far away if possible.

:roflmao: :tup: :sick::speechless:

 

[mary1979]

There also seems to be a monthly cycle around here where the vibe/mood changes to an overly critical, bitchy one for a few days.

Dont know if its a moon phase, or if everyone naturally bounces off one particular persons vibe, or if all the women's pms has synced ahahah

The guys could probably answer this one best ;)

 

[oasis2003]

It is lovely to hear words of support or kindness @Mal Content .
I really don't know about the phases of the moon .........

 

[lostforgottensoul]

@mary1979 i was thinking the exact same thing last night. All the way up to 6am....

Then slept all day today. Bleh! It seems theres a 'time of year' for shit!

 

[mary1979]

@mary1979 i was thinking the exact same thing last night. All the...

I've been here roughly two months now and this is the second time I've noted a stiffer air.
(maybe its actually me, I'm more hypersensitive once a month? Aha)

 

[lostforgottensoul]

@mary1979 its usually when theres an influx of new members, in my opinion. Obviously could be wrong but this is how I see it.

Not all, obviously, cause issues but i did accidently when new, and ive seen a few others recently and also found a few 'oldies' also had some issues 'settling in' when new. So i think it just takes some a bit to sort of calm down and settle in.

Again, just my opinion.

 

[EveHarrington]

@mary1979 @lostforgottensoul

I noticed it too, yesterday.

Going into semi-hiding. Lol.

 

[Ronin]

There also seems to be a monthly cycle around here where the vibe/mood changes to an overly critical, bitchy one for a few days.

Yep, otherwise known as Let's practice active listening, analytic & compassionate communication, and keeping down all the cursewords we've collected through our lifetimes diplomacy hours. :D

(Just saying I'm glad how they've been handled so far, from what I've seen.)

 

[noaloha]

Hi! I love this thread. I would also like to say that as a newbie, you all are incredibly welcoming, more so here than on any forum I've been on.

On the topic of platitudes, I agree with most others here. I'm on this forum for advice, yes, but the empathy aspect is what keeps me coming back.

I actually had a conversation with my SO the other night about why he's so quiet and listless when I pour my heart out to him. I ask him why he goes silent so often, and he told me that it's because he thinks trying to be reassuring would be trite or hollow somehow. I told him that it's much less about the content of the response than it is about open acknowledgement in order to build trust. Something as simple as, "I hear you" or "Man, I can't imagine what that's like" or "You'll figure it out."

On some days, just hearing a human voice directly responding to mine is like a ping signal. It lets me know I'm not alone, and gives me courage to keep going.

 

[lostforgottensoul]

Something as simple as, "I hear you" or "Man, I can't imagine what that's like" or "You'll figure it out."

Something I love doing here! Even if I dont have the answer because Im still struggling too; I can still tell you that you arent alone and are heard, understood, and accepted; all the things I think all humans need! Well along with love.