I’ve been in a great group for about a year and a half. It is peer support, with a very great peer facilitator. The boundaries are very clear – we don’t want to trigger each other – and everyone is responsible for keeping the conversation at support rather than depth stuff.
The facilitator reviews the rules at the beginning of every meeting, reminding of boundaries, and we’re each responsible for taking care of ourself and the group. If someone needs to mention anything bad, they hold up a hand to warn people; if anything starts getting out of hand, we stop the group for a break. Anyone can stop the group at any time, if they’re triggered or uncomfortable. It does take a bit of work to stay in that space, from everyone, but it’s good work.
It is anonymous, and screened. We don’t acknowledge each other outside the group. Privacy is needed for many people. You don’t have to disclose. It’s many different types of trauma injury. We talk about a lot of different things, from self-protection to therapies to symptoms to society issues to just getting by. “Therapy-speak” is not allowed, but lots of discussion about what worked or didn’t work for one or another or some. But mostly it is the company, knowing other people are going through the same struggles. We laugh a lot.
I needed this badly when I was slipping into flashback. Most of the people in my life do not have ptsd, and there was that terrible dislocation where it feels like I’m drowning and everyone is talking about cheesecake and baubles – I did not need to go in-depth with people (gosh, I know the place...), but really needed the company of people who know the realities of this injury, for a reality check. It was a life boat: I’m human again, not crazy, just going through the pain and weirdness.
So the right group ~is~ possible, but lots of safety guards to keep it where you want it.