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Some People Make Symptoms Worse Unintentionally?

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When I have run into problems with loud people, I let them know that the noise levels make me uncomfortable and if they cannot or will not lower their voices or the noise they are making, I will seperate myself from them, ....temporarily or permanenty, depending on their response to my needs.

I have no desire to be a door mat for others to walk on, I deserve respect and consideration regardless if I am the one with PTSD symptoms!!!
 
This is unrelated in a way, but I am both sensitive to light and afraid of the dark! I have glasses that adjust to sunlight and even some room lights, I have noticed. They are just normal glasses, with the added feature of being light sensitive to sunlight. Anyway, I think sensitivity to certain things goes with PTSD, like whatever was present and in abundance during our trauma(s) will probably to some degree affect us when it happens. As it happens, both my traumas had either light or total darkness as their atmosphere so light is something I am sensitive to in all its many forms.

How do I deal with this? I can't really, I guess. Lightness and darkness are parts of every day. I do have my windows either covered or shaded at least to some degree. I have a light I keep on in my home at all times, which lights the whole place pretty much, but only slightly, not brightly. I have a nightlight in the bathroom, the only room that that one light does not reach.

I guess you just have to use your imagination about how to deal with your issue. Like have you thought of asking the offended(s) to stop doing these things that upset you? Have they agreed to and tried and been unable to do so? You know, sometimes simple communication can do wonders.
 
Boundaries with others are good, but straight up... other people aren't responsible for my symptoms. I am. Don't expect this to be well received particularly but it did help me a lot to reframe my startle experiences and difficulty with some things as a goal/challenge and endeavor to improve with a strategy rather than endure the situation and stay upset and uncomfortable about it or resent other people for it. "Noisy" is gonna happen at times no matter what I ask of others. I guess that's how I squared it up.
 
This is unrelated in a way, but I am both sensitive to light and afraid of the dark! I have glasses...

Hey SheilaKathy, thanks for sharing your thoughts! It must be very difficult trying to cope with the light thing, I can imagine.

It's interesting that you bring up communicating to the source to stop doing these things.. I struggle with communication pretty severely, especially when I get ''set off''. I have a bad habit of simply walking away from people or situations and leaving the people involved behind and wondering ''what the heck happened, why is he ignoring me?''. I get that all the time.. Someone very close to me often tells me about how this or that person misses me and doesn't understand why I suddenly disappeared from their life.

I have a real hard time connecting with people because of everything, although I wish this could be different. I guess I can't connect with someone if they make me feel uncomfortable (through no fault of their own, I understand it's not intentional).

I'm happy you brought up the communication issue, I've been thinking about attending classes or something on the subject.
 
Boundaries with others are good, but straight up... other people aren't responsible for my symptom...

Yeah I understand, unfortunately it doesn't matter because when I get ''set off'' I don't think rationally or with any common sense, I need a lot of work on this. It's something I've thought of a lot. I used to blame everyone around me for how I feel instead of taking responsibility, I don't do that any more although it doesn't change the fact that I avoid people who upset me, I don't want people like that in my life.

Also it makes me upset and bothers me when someone tells me to suck it up btw because one of my abusers was extremely cold and told me my emotions aren't real and that I was the problem when I needed help.
 
That's what exposures are for... trying to normalize the startle responses to some things.

Unfortunately I expose myself often and it doesn't work so I'm not sure what to do. That's not an option for me sorry.
 
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That's why I used gaming (an environment I can 100% control) to do noise exposures. I did get imp...

I've got to stop talking about this because it's really bothering me, I'm sorry, so if I stop replying to this thread this is why.
 
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