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[expectingbetter]

I have had someone say that only I can help myself, only I can love myself

And no one taught us how to do that, despite all the therapy I am still clueless :notworthy:

 

[Snowflake]

Me too, and even my therapist has never done that. And never will.
It's a pity money can't buy...

I wouldn't make it a summer without her. I just wish she hugged but it's like I am damaged, or smell, maybe fat, ugly, flawed. She just doesn't hug

 

[lostforgottensoul]

I have had someone say that only I can help myself, only I can love myself, only I can meet my needs. Ugh-I can't accept that right now. I just want someone to wrap there arms around me and tell me it's okay to cry or talk and they will listen. .... But no one does. (

OMG, I thought only i thought that, wished that, and puked at the "only you" statements! :hug:s

 

[expectingbetter]

That is not about you, it is only about her, she doesn't hug clients, and unfortunately we are only clients.

I know journaling isn't really helpful when we feel like this, it demands so much concentration, and I don't have it when I am falling apart

 

[expectingbetter]

I thought only i thought that, wished that

As you see, dear, lot of us have a great lack of that in our lives :(

 

[Snowflake]

That is not about you, it is only about her, she doesn't hug clients, and unfortunately we are...

Exactly!!! My mind is going a mile a minute I can't think to write!!

 

[lostforgottensoul]

lot of us have a great lack of that in our lives

Indeed.

 

[Snowflake]

And I paid an online life coach to tell me to journal.....every time I feel alone and hopeless she says journal from that part. If I want to die -she says journal. NO just talk to me and listen to me. Ugh (sorry )

 

[JEKBreatheandBelieve]

I have also been told to journal. NO WAY!!! I want someone to listen and hold me and let me cry. How hard is that request?

Sometimes journaling can feeling like talking to another person. I find it really helpful.

Sometimes there just isn't anyone out there who is able to listen and hold us and let us cry. Sometimes because there literally is no one there. Sometimes because they don't understand and so are not comfortable enough to do it.

Sometimes in those times I find a stuffed animal and pour my tears into it. I can hold it so there's some comfort there. Maybe you could comfort yourself. Sometimes I rub my own hair to soothe myself.

And as others have said, come on here. We might not be able to physically be there, but it sure can help to see people's responses or to go on chat.

 

[Snowflake]

Sometimes journaling can feeling like talking to another person. I find it really helpful...

Yes sometimes journaling is helpful. I do love to write. But it doesn't meet my needs either. Sometimes I think there should be 1:1 sponsors or peer supports for those of us with PTSD that need that extra support. Idk-I am just venting and rambling

 

[expectingbetter]

Sometimes in those times I find a stuffed animal and pour my tears into it. I can hold it so there's some comfort there. Maybe you could comfort yourself. Sometimes I rub my own hair to soothe myself.

I can't believe I am not only one who is always turn to stuff animal, he is my best friend though. And that with rubbing my own hair, my thing also!

 

[Snowflake]

I also think people get tired of people whining....and "turn us off/tune us out"