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[Justmehere]

I turn to my dog.

 

[Ruinedforever]

I turn to my dog.

And cats!

 

[Deleted member 20280]

:hug:s to all of you. I am always here for you xx

 

[lostforgottensoul]

Me too on both @Justmehere & @Ruinedforever!

 

[JEKBreatheandBelieve]

It's the triggers, the daily triggers and feeling overwhelmed and no one to talk to. It's always bein...

Yeah, I get a lot of what you are saying. I have a husband and two sons (granted their still young), but I have been bawling my eyes out wishing for someone to love me and lamenting my situation. Throwing things off my tables and desks because I just can't take the time to clean it properly and that angers me because PTSD leaves me so tired. And I have been trying to be so brave lately, but I should always know that ends me up right back here...alone. And venting is exactly what I want to do. That or outrun this life, but that doesn't seem very likely.

 

[Tinyflame]

That's what it is to be human.

I actually agree. Fighting something together for me was never the same, & never had the same fall out, as fighting something alone.

 

[Tinyflame]

I think it's a bit different experience of having a family versus no family. Not necessarily easier with a family, but not the same as being alone. Because maybe, other people are connections to this world, now, here, (even if they don't understand or communicate effectively to support). Hopefully however they are still on your side.

 

[Enaila]

My T suggested a butterfly hug where you cross your arms and give self a hug last time I shared frustration of just wanting held. I know petting my dogs is a lifesaver at times and they come and snuggle when I am upset as they can sense those things.

 

[Friday]

Tonight I texted 2 people and emailed 2 people and they just didn't get it. ----not they are considered friends. I even left 2 messages for my therapist in 10 minutes. I felt overwhelmed and alone.

It sounds like you do have people in your life... But they aren't doing what you want them to be doing, or are not the kind of relationship you want to be having... which is a very different thing from being alone. It has -or can have- very different solutions.

my therapist is leaving this week, only for 12 days

As does missing someone who is leaving for a period of time, or being afraid of missing someone who is going to be leaving for a period of time.

I just want someone to wrap there arms around me and tell me it's okay to cry or talk and they will listen. ....

I want someone to listen and hold me and let me cry. How hard is that request?

That's not a small thing. Not a "just", and actually, it's a very hard request to make of someone without the foundation built for it. It's a big deal, not a small one as It's either a foundational kind of thing -making friends with people who are very touchy feely, from day one- or a serious time commitment, building a relationship to the point where it includes physical contact, with people for whom physical contact is reserved for intimate friends, confidantes, lovers, etc.

Minimizing anything with a "just" not only sells yourself & what you want short, it can make it a nearly impossible task... Because it takes away all the steps to get there. From I "just" want to be held, to I "just" want someone to fly me to St.Barques for Croissants. Both of those things are attainable. But there are steps involved. If you want it in your life? Figure out the steps. Trace your way backwards and build those steps into your life :)

 

[Sandstone]

I have a cuddly panda who gives me a lot of comfort. He is always there and always reliable. Often just running through his life story in my mind is enough to soothe me. oddly, he also gives good advice that is different from the advice I'd give myself. No idea how that works.

 

[Snowflake]

It sounds like you do have people in your life... But they aren't doing what you want them t...

Hmmm I don't know. I guess technically I do have people. I texted a caseworker on a work issue and a coworker on s work issue-hoping they would ask how I was. I emailed my life coach who said "you need to be more positive on your healing." And I left 2 messages with therapist so she can hear how crazy I am. That's it-my husband isn't supportive and hates therapists and thinks all I do is cry abuse-he doesn't hug me-hasn't in years. When I am just overwhelmed I just want someone to help me By listening. I have a cat-great and I have a dog-great and I have a stuffed animal. But I feel like I am in that moment with no power or no strength and I feel like my life will kill me. That's a scary feeling.

 

[JEKBreatheandBelieve]

I texted a caseworker on a work issue and a coworker on s work issue-hoping they would ask how I was

Unfortunately people can't read our minds. When I thought my mom completely didn't understand or want to understand any of this, I got a surprise. I hadn't really talked to her in a couple of months (and that was quite unusual, but some of the things she had said when I was in a trauma treatment facility really hurt). Anyway, I was having this really bad day and I just texted her- I am having a really bad day. She came over, hugged me and told me that she may never understand, but she will always love me, and then she helped me go get my kids and take care of them for the afternoon. I had been desperately reaching out or wishing someone would help but it wasn't until I took the chance of at least letting them know that I was struggling, that I found someone to help me at least a little and at least in that day. Maybe, you just need to tell someone you're struggling and maybe they will be able to be a little more helpful. That's just my experience I thought I would share in case it helps.