News Do Men Get Ptsd From Watching Their Partners Go Through Traumatic Births?

[Gs172003]

I think you are misreading a little bit.

Your friend walking in on her boyfriend post-mortem would...

Maybe I am. I guess the way I'm reading it is that suicide wouldn't be considered "accidental"

 

[joeylittle]

suicide wouldn't be considered "accidental"

Just checked some stuff - it should read 'violent or accidental'. So, there we go. The suicide you describe was most certainly violent.

That is in there to exclude deaths that one has an awareness are coming. Terminal illnesses give people time to prepare - it's not the same as the completely unexpected 'jerk' from an unforeseen death. And violent, because it affects the memory more acutely than 'peaceful'.

This is not to say death, in any form, isn't wretched. Only that the experiential force needed to cause PTSD is graphic or sudden, as opposed to known and prepared for and relatively calm.

 

[Gs172003]

Just checked some stuff - it should read 'violent or accidental'. So, there we go. The suic...

Makes sense. Thanks

 

[sedna]

I'm always wanting to be generous with sensitive men, I know they are rare.

No. I'd call witnessing a traumatic birth a bad experience, that shows you're truly a nice man, because it takes you a while to process the emotions.

Hope the partners you have appreciate you.

 

[asadafagahajakal]

Why the hell does it have to be accidental? A friend of mine walked in on her boyfriend post mortem afte...

It can be violent or accidental. Learning of a suicide alone can be criterion A. Finding a body of someone you know very well who just offed themselves is definitely Criterion A. Suicide can be considered a violent death, especially if completed using a weapon.

My sincerest condolences for your friends loss.

 

[BlueOrange]

I think it's possible.

A. Exposure to actual or threatened death, serious injury, or sexual violence in one (or more) of the following ways:
2) Witnessing, in person, the event(s) as it occurred to others,

The story in the news article is of a firefighter who watched his girlfriend bleeding out, and who was unable to do anything about it - he was (quite properly) sidelined by the medical staff. When he runs into a burning building, he knows he's doing the right thing. Whereas he has an opportunity to feel useless and guilty in this very different trauma.

I've had a number of traumas, but I don't have flashbacks to the time that a drunk man held a knife to my throat - I've always believed that I handled that situation appropriately, and while I found reminders quite painful for a while, it hasn't ever linked to my symptoms the way that other events have. So I think it's extremely possible for someone to be just fine doing emergency work, and 'not fine at all' when they don't have a task to perform / a way to make a positive difference.