Fighting With Wife

[Matticus]

I have been through so much.....finally getting great help and diagnosed with chronic PTSD. As soon as we argue about ANYTHING, flashbacks BAD and just gets worse.not fair for her. How do I help????

 

[lostforgottensoul]

Can you expand on that a little?

 

[Seasounds]

If I understand you correctly, you're saying that when moments get tense, when angry words or criticisms are exchanged, that your PTSD symptoms get worse?

What exactly happens? Does it mean that her raising her voice to you, triggers you?

Or does it mean that in tense moments your temper flares frightens her? Or that you freeze and can't talk?

I guess in any case, working on yourself, managing emotions, not blaming, are all skills that can be learned. SSRI-Meds have made my emotional flares less and I can more freely access words for my feelings.

I hope your partner has a therapist or Alanon Group (they give support for healthy relationships).

Non-Violent Communnication is really terrific, for individuals and couples; simplifies communications and help discussing things not be so triggering.

 

[EveHarrington]

Just know it gets worse before it gets better. When you first start healing it's not like everything starts getting better. Things get worse, sometimes a lot worse. It's just how things go unfortunately.

 

[Fighting with wife]

I am not sure what to expand upon. It is so hard to watch her struggle and I don't know how to explain why. Eve, I have heard it will be worse, I just pray to God daily I don't lose her. She is one tough cookie and I feel that she will fight for me. It's that gear I can't stop.

 

[Fighting with wife]

If I understand you correctly, you're saying that when moments get tense, when angry words or criticisms...

Exactly!!!!