Iamsensative
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Sorry you feeling so bad! Sending love and light.
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Deeply Hurt..
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Teddy Bear
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Being shunned by your family is absolutely awful. I'm sorry that you had to go through that and are reminded of that on or around Thanksgiving.
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Lostforgottensoul! I felt extremely sad while reading your post. Sending support.
lostforgottensoul
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It is and it hurts every day, especially around holidays. It's hard to see anything good about myself when they are saying i'm this and that. But I'm working on it slowly.
Thanks @Shankara! And @Teddy Bear! :hug:
Teddy Bear
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Just keep working on yourself. Unfortunately there is this hinderance from your family but I'm sure there is something you can do that you'll still enjoy. If you ever need to vent just hit me up with a conversation. I try to get on everyday.
lostforgottensoul
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Thank you @Teddy Bear! :hug:
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Solidarity here!
I can hardly stay in reality these days. I dont want to see or achieve anything. Whats all this?
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Solidarity here!
I can hardly stay in reality these days. I dont want to see or achieve anything. Whats all this?
:(
lostforgottensoul
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@Shankara loss of a sense of intrinsic meaning to existence is part and parcel of PTSD, the experts say. But they so far as I know do not explain a theory of why that loss exists in PTSD. If anyone has anything to add to this, maybe we would find it helpful to your current existential vacuum (it's called in Existentialism) and yet in PTSD, I would argue that it's the trauma itself that creates the loss.
How to accept the trauma happened and hold that up against the theories of meaning of our cultures and make any sense of it all? It never tallies.
This is also partly to blame, I think, for @lostforgottensoul 's feeling of being "different" now from those with whom there used to be an easy fit and a connection and love.
Ignorance is bliss, and allows that feeling. Experience brings wisdom at a highly painful price. Separation from the tribe in order to see through the tribe's comfort zone for what it is, and to live in the darkness outside the warmth of the tribe. Once pushed out of the bliss, how to find a way back to even the periphery?
I think it is a one day at a time strategy called for, in which in small steps of counterintuitive work, the survivor makes his or her way to a state of grace, not the same "ignorance is bliss" of any Pre-PTSD or good times, but some kind of state of belief in something, rooted in believe in one's own strength to make choices of what to think, how to act, what to set as a goal. To trust in oneself to set a goal and try to achieve it that day.
And when failure happens, to try to figure out what went wrong, and give it another go differently...learning. We just learn a new way. That is our only way to create a new meaning for ourselves.
No longer can we simply adopt the easy, pre-fabricated meanings of society. They don't fit our realities, but this is the case for most of our generation now that people are aware of the ugly truths. That human predators are, in fact, common. That bad people don't stick out and look bad. And that our system has failed to protect enough of us.
How to accept the trauma happened and hold that up against the theories of meaning of our cultures and make any sense of it all? It never tallies.
This is also partly to blame, I think, for @lostforgottensoul 's feeling of being "different" now from those with whom there used to be an easy fit and a connection and love.
Ignorance is bliss, and allows that feeling. Experience brings wisdom at a highly painful price. Separation from the tribe in order to see through the tribe's comfort zone for what it is, and to live in the darkness outside the warmth of the tribe. Once pushed out of the bliss, how to find a way back to even the periphery?
I think it is a one day at a time strategy called for, in which in small steps of counterintuitive work, the survivor makes his or her way to a state of grace, not the same "ignorance is bliss" of any Pre-PTSD or good times, but some kind of state of belief in something, rooted in believe in one's own strength to make choices of what to think, how to act, what to set as a goal. To trust in oneself to set a goal and try to achieve it that day.
And when failure happens, to try to figure out what went wrong, and give it another go differently...learning. We just learn a new way. That is our only way to create a new meaning for ourselves.
No longer can we simply adopt the easy, pre-fabricated meanings of society. They don't fit our realities, but this is the case for most of our generation now that people are aware of the ugly truths. That human predators are, in fact, common. That bad people don't stick out and look bad. And that our system has failed to protect enough of us.
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