Sexual Abuse Survivors/victims?

[Excaliberya]

My mother had sex with me along with my step dad. It did go very far. It went just as far as it possibly could.

Some...

yeah I think I'd be really embarrassed to mention it.. My therapist only knows about my physical, psychological/verbal, and neglect because for some reason it's easier to talk about it in the third person point of view. But I can't talk about the sexual abuse even in third person.. I still have a hard time talking in first person or from a person point of view of the physical abuse. I've tried with my friend but it would be for maybe a few words or a sentence and I'd quickly revert to third person. I'm usually not aware of it and my friend tells me I switched after I finished talking.

 

[Muga]

I've learned therapists know more than we think. I give hints at a few issues and I know she knows. Yet, she waits until I am ready to tell her. I have hinted at one thing and she has given me several openings which I have yet to take. I finally told her about another (sexual abuse by my spouse), but it three opportunities over a year for me to say it. She knew I had been sexually abused by my spouse before I understood what it was Patience is a must for therapist.

 

[Siwuz]

yeah I think I'd be really embarrassed to mention it.

As was I. My therapist does this too:

I give hints at a few issues and I know she knows. Yet, she waits until I am ready to tell her. I have hinted at one thing and she has given me several openings

I will give hints and he will give me a few openings a few different ways or he will ask if XYZ is what I am talking about. But to start I had to write out things and literally pass notes all session. I have also turned completely around and looked out the window behind me to tell him stuff that are embarrasing and I have a lot of shame about.

Therapists need to know so they know how to best help us. But I agree that they actually know way more then we think based on things we say, do, are afraid of, angry about, opinions and all sorts of stuff.