Are These Legitimate Triggers?

[Twila Little]

I grew up in an emotionally, physically and verbally abusive home. I was also sexually molested and blamed. I told many members of my family and essentially, no one cares. I started getting sexually abused at 8 and lasted until I was 14. I f*cking hate my family. My mother told me I was trying to take her man. Fast forward, I am 22 and I have been going to therapy since 15 and I feel like I'm am at a dead end. I have spent ALL of my adult life trying to make things right with my life and I'm doing it all by myself. My family doesn't care because they are in denial. My question now is since I feel like all of my family is useless and every time I think of them I feel betrayl and wrath, is it unreasonable to cut their asses off and never talk to them again?

 

[Jeffrey Visser]

dear twila
im very sorry for ur past. i understand ur struggle and ur pain.

its gna be really tough but dont lose the connection to ur family even tho they have never helped u they are still ur family.

if i were in ur shoes i would start to talk less to them and focus on ur own life. u have always stand on ur leggs and u probably will do it in the future also and thats a good thing ur very strong for that and i have deep respect for u.

dont cut it off but u can always talk less to them and focus on ur own life.

with much love jeffrey :hug:

 

[Twila Little]

dear twila
im very sorry for ur past. i understand ur struggle and ur pain.

its gna be really t...

Thanks for the advice. I feel that way ultimately but when the triggers sends stress hormones coursing through my blood I just don't care anymore .

 

[Fadeaway]

Completely, reasonable and an extremely healthy thing to do. I understand the pain of not being believed, and I should have cut mine out of my life years before I actually did. Your family sounds toxic and your mom is downright evil for not protecting you. My grandmother did similar to me.

you will find this place is incredibly supportive and we are here for you every step of the way.

 

[Jeffrey Visser]

Completely, reasonable and an extremely healthy thing to do. I understand the pain of not being believ...

you cant choose ur parents my friend it is life... they are horrible for doing this to her but you cant choose your parents... nobody can. maybe one day she need them for whatever reason and then its too late..

 

[Jeffrey Visser]

Thanks for the advice. I feel that way ultimately but when the triggers sends stress hormones cour...

i understand your hate and that ur blood is boiling from it but one day you will need them for whatever reason and then its always nice to atleast have something...

 

[Twila Little]

Completely, reasonable and an extremely healthy thing to do. I understand the pain of not being believ...

Thank you. What is life like for you now that they are gone? Are you happier? I feel like my life would be better...much better but I go back and forth. Please tell me it's a liberating experience.

 

[Fadeaway]

even tho they have never helped u they are still ur family

I am sorry, I just don't understand this concept. What is the point of being loyal to someone who shares your blood if they treat you horribly? Sharing blood doesn't magically link people together. A mutual agreement of support and trust binds people together.

 

[Twila Little]

i understand your hate and that ur blood is boiling from it but one day you will need them for w...

I still need to find healthier people to be in my life though.

 

[Jeffrey Visser]

I am sorry, I just don't understand this concept. What is the point of being loyal to someone who shar...

dont get me wrong what they are doing to her is horrible... and im also not saying that she needs to stay loyal to them at all. all im saying is that she needs to live her own life right now and just talk less to them but dont cut it off you will never know when you need them for whatever reason..

 

[Twila Little]

I am sorry, I just don't understand this concept. What is the point of being loyal to someone who shar...

I 100% agree with that. I just want my anger to subside and betrayl is poison that I carry in my heart everyday because of "family". I have a hard time trusting others and that is not good for any human'spirit health under any circumstance.

 

[Jeffrey Visser]

I still need to find healthier people to be in my life though.

u definitly need that and deserve that :hug: and one day they will come on ur path dont worry about that