Death Ideas For When Your Pet Dies?

[Bliss]

Oh i am so sorry you are going through this.
We lost our beloved girl in june and are heartbroken. We...

I thank u, beyond words:):):).

Your girl is so fortunate to have u, couldn't have been loved more:) what a beautiful tribute to her. So hard to type between the healthy tears of love, bonding, and so much life:).

If u read this and have time could you tell me how you cope day to day after. Like what u did in the days right after and how u continue to deal with it?

I have been reading on how to cope and u make it real, I am going to start on the journal today, have so many pictures, I do a blog on my traveling for my kids, I think I will go back and put pictures in of her at the places, and take so many more now. This is the beauty of beginning to deal with this now, I can read your experience and use the wisdom to create the memories that will help sustain me.

I can get the plaster of Paris and do the clipping now, doing it with her:).

Would you be able to tell me the company u used for the key ring? It is such a beautiful idea and that we have traveled together for five years makes it perfect, would like to use someone that someone like u had a good expereince with.

I think I will do the private cremation too, I need her with me, it costs more but that's ok.

It is so hard to be human, thank u for sharing your experience, so good to remember we are united in these very real human experiences.

I am over threads on grounding and stabalization

 

[LadyZane]

When I lost my first cat when she was 16, it was sudden and very difficult for me. I was single, mostly alone, and it was sort of the catalyzing incident for me to cut my abusive mother out of my life (she was so unbelievably mean and unsupportive to me about it). But I was able to get myself through it by pouring myself into caring for my other cat, who still needed me. Then, a few years later, when he died, it was after a long period of geriatric illnesses that I tended him for. Knowing it was coming was difficult but also helped me sort of mentally prepare -- I was distraught that he was obviously moving in that direction, but I knew that at 17 years old it was a normal outcome, and that me being distraught only meant I was helping myself, not him. HE was the one who needed me to be strong and help him get the most out of every day. I was his whole world, and he depended on me to make it a good one.

When he died, it was like losing both of them. They were in my life since I was 18 years old and had been there through all the most difficult things I faced. I said I'd never get another pet. But I realized that just because he was gone didn't mean I could just "shut off" the capacity I had to love and care for a pet, like some kind of love faucet. I realized that, again, wallowing in it was only helping ME -- and the city was full of homeless pets who needed love and care. So I adopted another senior cat, and she's a terrific little lady. She's aging, and she's starting to develop those late-life chronic illnesses, too, but I feel like working through the grief of losing my first two pets made me stronger and more capable of being what SHE needs and making the right judgements for her. When her day comes, I'll be very very very sad, but I have every intention of welcoming new animals in need into the space she leaves behind. It's really healing.

 

[Bliss]

When I lost my first cat when she was 16, it was sudden and very difficult for me. I was single, mostl...

Please give that terrific lady a cuddle from me:). I love cats! That was like half your life you had your kitties:)

Thank you for your response, perfect timing, today I came to what u said about being distraught being all about me and not helpful to Thea. This best tribute I can pay to her for supporting me all these years is deal well with these intense bonded feelings I have. Like u said I don't want to shut the love out and I don't want to be overwhelmed by it to the point, I am.not helpful to either of us, sitting around wailing that it is not fair, it's too soon, ect, :) lovingkindness, compassion, equanimity, being with suffering not overwhelmed by it.

Thank u confirmed more reality for today.
Gotta call my daughter

 

[Bliss]

Ok I am back, realized it was 300and call daughter every wendsday at that time, but so appreciate this conversation, and your post brings home, there is so much to learn and grow from this and u did it starting at 16:)

thanks again, so appreciate it.

 

[Bliss]

I don't know if we are supposed to post pics I don't see many, hope someone let's me know if it takes people's data plans or anything.

Decided to get out there and live this morning and we ran across this guy, if u can blow up pics, big old alligator! She could have gotten eaten! I knew better we were watching from the car.

A local just went by and he said it was the biggest he had ever seen, I told him I just posted him:)

 

[The Albatross]

My canine I won't be able to replace unless or until our situation is settled. In the meantime, we're taking very good care of her and enjoying the time we are to have. If we relocate it will be with two canines and 5 cats... which will really take some doing.

 

[Bliss]

My canine I won't be able to replace unless or until our situation is settled. In the meantime, w...

Hi:) are u trying to figure out if u move, bu

My canine I won't be able to replace unless or until our situation is settled. In the meantime, w...

There is alot to these situations, I am finding out, the emotional, the practical.

are u trying to figure out if u move, u won't be able to bury her where u would like to have her? I can see where that could get tricky.

 

[Ronin]

I don't know if we are supposed to post pics I don't see many

As long as you own them, all is good with that. It's the copyright issues that are a concern, not pictures that are your own. :)

 

[Bliss]

As long as you own them, all is good with that. It's the copyright issues that are a concern, not pictures...

Thanks wanted to share that huge gator! What about links, where they have a share option, like they want u to share it. I had posted a link to "anticipatory grief" but took it down as I hate to get in trouble! Good day to u!

 

[Bliss]

Becky is now bliss, it is a reminder to myself to TRY to peacefully exist as often as I can:)
Ok no way around this, I can Google and get ideas for what to do with her body, and I am going to vet tomorrow and will talk to him too, but this trauma history, ptsd involving death, complicates matters, so I will write her where I feel there is more of a chance of people understanding..

I was on bed rest for four months in the hospital, then had stillborn baby, freaked about leaving him at the cold room in hospital then ground. Found boyfriend dead from an overdose of pills.

I know me pretty well now, I am 51,if I have a plan I can do it in these situations, if I dont have a plan, it can get dicey.

So any ideas on if I woke up in the morning and she was dead would be appreciated. What did u all do? This is complicated by being in a campground in Florida, living on the road till may.

My first thoughts are if I could do a private cremation I could have her with me, will talk to vet tomorrow. But I could have problems being too far away to get her back. I could bury her on a nature preserve. I need to focus on my spirtual philosophy and get clearer on that and some of the decisions should be easier.

Peace

 

[Bliss]

On my way to vet tomorrow, stopping at Walmart to get plaster of Paris to make paw print, having these things to do (thank u missycat) is really helping to move this whole.process along, not sure why, but without it, I was going in circles, panicking, makes it so I can be there for thea, thank u, lady and, u are so right:)

 

[LadyZane]

Thank u confirmed more reality for today

:)