Other Looking For Ex Cult Members / Cult Survivors

[Suzetig]

I'm guessing it means "I don't give a f*ck".

 

[saraemerald]

My mom joined a cult when I was six. I left when I was 15/16 (it was hard to leave) but believed in...

@johannakat , so what are you looking for on this thread? You've got a lot of replies. Can you tell us about your experience?

 

[Ronin]

Whats IDGAF

Ayy, apologies :D Exactly what Suzetig said; I don't care, in a bit more aggressive manner.

 

[Chiqui]

Ayy, apologies :D Exactly what Suzetig said; I don't care, in a bit more aggressive manner.

Thanks for the clarification and no need for apologies, Ronin. My learning of English it is growing exponentialy here ;):geek:

 

[Symphony]

Over a year. Xtian fundamentalists. My friends had to reteach me the difference between right and wrong, especially in terms of bodily autonomy.

 

[Sideways]

People can do a lot of things in the "name of Jesus" that Jesus would be appalled by.

Yeh. I'm feeling that.

We get taught that the cult leader "found God", and realised God was telling him to do messed up stuff to others. That's their justification.

In my mind, the reality is the other way around- my main abuser was messed up and wanted to do nasty stuff, then found Christian scripture to use as his excuse.

In the end, the abuse has absolutely nothing to do with religion.

 

[asadafagahajakal]

I dont know if I would consider myself a "survivor" of a cult, but my wife and I have been affected by being in a cult a year or so ago.

My former boss welcomed my wife and I to a dinner and Bible study every tuesday. It quickly advanced into something almost paranormal. It's interesting because I've met a couple prophets in that time, but I never told her who they are because she was a narcissistic cnt rag. But after all the extortion, emotional and spiritual abuse, not being allowed to question her crazy beliefs and contradictions, I didn't realise I needed out, until I saw how insensitive she was when I was grieving for a friend that killed himself after two tours in afghanistan.

It's really f*cked how someone can take a perfectly good religion and turn it into such a destructive weapon to control people. I'm still trying to unlearn the lies I was taught and trying to forgive. I went through more than I put in this post but that experience was very traumatizing. For a while I had such serious trust issues I had a hard time confiding in my own wife. Maybe I you follow my future posts I'll talk about it more. Or in my trauma journal on this forum. You aren't alone in this

 

[Frenzy3674]

Husband pointed out tonight that I am not as healed from it as I would like to believe. Having an exor...

Yes it can.

 

[Deleted member 487]

If you follow the teachings in the Holy Bible to a T, you will find that 98% of the churches out there are bullshit.

My mom was in the LDS when I was young, and I was introduced to it when I was 4-5 years old. The LDS, even as much as people dislike it, isn't a cult, itself. Instead it is a matter of how it is run on a local level. I figure if you don't like a church, you can always pull out.

 

[lostforgottensoul]

if you don't like a church, you can always pull out.

Many times thats the case. I'd say most times thats the case. But part of my therapy was to research cults and many of even the most well known cults started as churches.

I watched a show that I am not sure is on anymore called Escaping Evil: My Life In A Cult and most of those stories also started as a church. The cult I grew up in was a "church" for the followers. A new religon that said taboo things like having sex with children and animals wasn't just ok but it was godly and holy; what god wanted.

Making it a church or a religion that sounds right or sounds good or at least says you can do things that most others says you can't. That is how cults gain their followers.

Then you become brainwashed to the point where you can't see that you should leave let alone can leave. You can't even fathom it. It isn't something that would ever come to your mind usually but even if it did, the avenues are covered up with complete terror. Terror of the cult, the leaders and guards etc, but many times terror of going to hell is what holds many back. Dr Phil had two girls on, some years back, from FLDS and that was their biggest fear, of going to hell.

There is now a new show on about Scientology. I haven't seen that so can't speak to it. But it starts like that, a religon that seems to have odd beliefs but seems harmless when it isn't.

So though most churches you can go to and stop going to any time you wish, there are those out there that are cults and you can't back out of it...if you ever think to want to.

I know you were speaking of LDS (and not FLDS or anything else) but I thought I would throw that out there as I don't think most know this. There are so many cults out there that, if people know about it, they think its harmless when that couldn't be further from the truth.

 

[Fadeaway]

Someone can correct me if I am wrong, but the LDS seem to look at the FLDS as a huge problem. I just learned recently about the "lost boys" of Salt Lake. They are FLDS teenage boys that get dropped off here from other parts of the state so they aren't competition for the older men who want to marry the women the younger men you be seeking after. They get dropped off with out any life experiences outside of the compounds where they live.

 

[Chiqui]

Many times thats the case. I'd say most times thats the case. But part of my therapy was to...

So well said!!!