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Can all pro bdsm people please politely go away i hate you all so much,
I respect your need for distance from an individual you feel harmed you in an egregious way. But please do not paint all of us with the same brush.
I have also had abusive relationships within bdsm. I have had abusive relationships in vanilla relationships. Getting a perspective from people on both sides might be helpful to you. Telling everybody you hate them will only drive people away.
BDSM, done in a consensual, caring, and safe way can be an awesome experience. That said, if you hook up with the wrong person, it can go seriously wrong in all sorts of ways. D/s, which generally involves commitment on the part of both parties and can even involve marriage, is the same way. But in my experience, it is no less complicated than vanilla (traditional) relationships.