Rant/observation

[Ejefi]

Just an observation... I have noticed in alot of the supporters comments they are shocked and hurt when their sufferer isolates or their anger over flows . Did you not research PTSD when they told you of their diagnosis? If you read any article on the subject these things are explained. I get a little aggravated reading all the posts about how your s/o is isolating and your feelings are hurt. Get over yourself. This is about the person with PTSD and what they are going through..... Oh my boyfriend hasn't called me in weeks. I'm so hurt. I love him so much. Why doesn't he just love me and think of ME all the time?? Because they have PTSD. And they're going through a shit storm of anger, depression, rage, guilt, and fear among many other things. Do the research and maybe you won't be so surprised by the symptoms of the disease.

And yes. I am a supporter.

 

[Noteg]

Sure... because it's not a two way relationship where both people's feeling matter or anything.

I'm sorry, but if somebody f*cks off for weeks with no communication to their partner, they're a shit partner.

 

[Ejefi]

Sure... because it's not a two way relationship where both people's feeling matter or anything.

I'm sorry, but if some...

Exactly. If you're not getting what you need or want from the relationship it's time to move on. PTSD is forever. You can not change people.

 

[Posi]

Maybe they're here talking about ME all the time because this is supposed to be a place where they can talk about ME and process, get insight, vent and not make the focus on THEM for a little while.

You're making it seem so uncomplicated. Hey you, don't be hurt and angry when the person you love leaves and won't speak to you and doesn't want to see you.

 

[Imi]

Question, as a supporter does your sufferer isolate?

By the sounds of things he/she doesn't. It is heart wrenching and even though it's probably ptsd related there are going to be doubts as to whether they are coming back or not, whether we should reach out or not, whether it's us or not.

We come on here to seek support when this happens to keep strong and seeing -and hearing other people experiencing the same puts us at ease.

So don't be so rude.

 

[Capud]

To the OP, I am doing the research, this is why I am here. I have feelings.....this is why I am shocked and hurt.

I'm sorry you are having a bad day.

 

[Tojov]

Question, as a supporter does your sufferer isolate?

By the sounds of things he/she doesn't. It is heart wrenching and e...

Exactly. In addition to all of that, we also have the added stress of worry and wondering and hoping they are ok, and having no way to be a supporter. It is truly gut wrenching, as you say.

 

[Jumog]

To the OP, Thank you! You post was not rude, although the 2nd post was borderline.

I am a sufferer and I have said before, reading some of the supporter comments make me fell very claustrophobic. I am lucky to have a supporter that give me my space, at least most of the time. He says he would rather me isolate than be clingy.

I can see where a supporter would struggle the first time if the had no warning. Once they know it is a part of PTSD why they get so upset the 2nd or 3rd go around. If you can't handle the isolation find a non ptsd relationship.

wondering and hoping they are ok, and having no way to be a supporter. It is truly gut wrenching

I have to say I am a bit confused by the contradiction in this statement. Part of being a supporter is giving space when needed so while I can understand that you are wondering if they are ok, it gives you the the perfect opportunity to be a supporter.

 

[Epof]

There is big difference in a little space and disappearing for weeks and months when you're supposed to be in a relationship.

If you don't like reading the supporter threads, then dont read them.

 

[Lubini]

This site is to offer support, not bash people for asking for support not matter how trivial the matter in hand might seem to some people.

 

[Bilum]

Jumog here. I never said I don't like reading the supporter threads. I like being able to offer a sufferers perspective when I can. I am also trying to understand my supporters perspective because he is an enigma sometimes. I only said some posts make me feel claustrophobic.

I have isolated for a 6 month period. My previous relationship was more like 6 off 2 weeks on. I would probably leave more often, unfortunately most of the time I have no were to go. It is more difficult when you live with someone.

 

[Cadet]

One thing is true for sure. We're all here because of this damned ptsd. Supporters and sufferers alike. Sufferers may exhibit their symptoms in many different ways, and sufferers have many different causes for their ptsd.

Many supporters have their own issues to deal with. What I see here, many supporters are in therapy for a myriad of issues, illnesses, and/or problems themselves. So they (we) have to deal with their sufferers in whichever way they (we) know how.

We have come here and found this place as a sanctuary, so please don't judge us for whatever we're dealing with. I often find myself in shock at what some supporters are accepting for themselves, but I keep my thoughts to myself. I don't tell them to leave of they're in so much pain. That's up to them to decide.

It's like, when us supporters are talking to our friends and family about how our sufferers are treating us, they don't get it. So we come here to vent, cry, moan...whatever! Please don't take that away from us.