Feeling Like I Just Can't

[Copper Princess]

Do you ever feel like you just can't? No words, no feelings, nothing...You just can't. :cry:

 

[hodge]

Yes, many, many times, @Copper Princess. As one of my former therapists used to say, sometimes we just have to throw in the towel, allow ourselves to have some down time and just do our best to take care of ourselves and let everything else go for a couple days.

I know how awful it is to go through what you're going through. The only thing I know to do is be kind and gentle with yourself for a couple days, then get back on the horse. :hug:s

 

[ladee]

I sure do @Copper Princess.

Those are the times like @hodge said..take a break.

Rest, sleep, state out the window. Put your favorite jammies on and don't get dressed. And don't eat carrots and broccoli if you don't want to.
Be nice to you.
Gentle hugs if you accept.

 

[Copper Princess]

Yes, many, many times, @Copper Princess. As one of my former therapists used to say, so...

Thank you @hodge I will try to give my head a break and hope I snap out of this soon.

@ladee I will try to rest. I will not sleep well but maybe I can can relax enough rest. Thank you for your kind words! I appreciate it.

 

[hodge]

Hang in there, @Copper Princess. I've learned there are a lot of ups and downs to this, as well as downs and way downs. Sometimes it takes me three or more days to get back to anything approaching productive. And, yes, sleep is a big part of that. If you are plagued by nightmares, like I am, Prazosin can really help. I was on that for several years till it didn't work anymore. Now I'm on Clonidine, which has worked for several years now.

 

[ladee]

It is certainly ok to ASK for something that will help you to sleep.
Our body and mind have to have a break. This healing journey is hard on our descent days, much less when we are exhausted..
Do you have self care techniques that help? We need something to help us.
Many suggestions on this all over the forum.
Hope you Find something that works for you. It may seem impossible..but keep trying things that will work for you.
And sometimes just knowing we are not alone helps.
Sending gentle hugs and hoping you at least get some rest.

 

[Copper Princess]

Hang in there, @Copper Princess. I've learned there are a lot of ups and downs to this,...

Nightmares are most nightly right now. I may get 4.5 hours of sleep a night and I work two jobs. I actually left my full time job today because I just feel so defeated right now.

 

[Copper Princess]

It is certainly ok to ASK for something that will help you to sleep.
Our body and mind have to have a bre...

I have a few techniques that I do. I take epsom salt eucalyptus baths, yoga and meditation and I make sure I exercise once a week at least. I also use deep breathing to help. Maybe it is just hard because this was the first week I let my therapist about the childhood abuse. She knows things have happened but it has been a general conversation but she read a lot of things and I feel guilty, ashamed, embarrassed and confused.

 

[ladee]

And it's ok to feel all those very normal feelings after exposure.
If you have the energy..maybe pick one feeling that is more stressful and break it down to something managable. Then if you have energy..try breaking them all down.
You are flooded and it feels like we are spinning out of control..or being buried by them.
I do understand.
You have really great self care tools. Hope you do your favorite ones.
Pretty important to keep telling yourself this won't always be this overwhelming.
Healing is such hard work. Give yourself a lot of credit for choosing to do this hard work.
It is going to get better. Hard for you to see it now, but revealing this IS you getting better. Takes tremendous courage to face this pain.
Be as good as you can to yourself.
Thank you for sharing so you don't have to be alone with all this.
We are here for you.
Gentle hugs if you accept.

 

[Rani G2]

you ever feel like you just can't? No words, no feelings, nothing...You just can't. :cry:

Yes. Definitely Copper princess. I can relate to that state of mind. Its hard to live, breathe and exist at times. I try to read good words, listen to music or watch out of the window.

Emotions do repeat, thoughts do too. But they are limited, they change their colours. Nothing is ever truly stagnant.

Knowing that helps.

 

[Copper Princess]

And it's ok to feel all those very normal feelings after exposure.
If you have the energy..maybe pick on...

Thank you! I will try to remind myself of these things. I appreciate all of your kind words and encouragement.

 

[Deleted member 40217]

I can relate. I try to stay fo focused and stay positive so I can get better, then your hit with a hurdle the size of Mt Everest. I am very tired of fighting my memories,emotions and brain. My moods and depression have me in turmoil at the moment and I'm trying so hard to see my self worth and purpose