Relationship What Now?? Ptsd Partner Shutting Off All Communication...

[BlueOrange]

I think it might be time to hunt for the silver lining. He's the best man you've met so far, but you're still alive; there is a future.

You've come to appreciate some things you didn't appreciate fully in the past: this will help you identify them in future (to find one who is even better).

You've had some practice handling some scary situations. It felt like a kind of death at times. You are, however, still alive. It hurts like hell, but it's no longer a dread cocktail of fear and pain, now it's mostly just pain. If you are kind to yourself, the pain will tend to fade (although, like rehabilitating a muscle, it'll play up at times, and the limits of what you can do with it will be unclear).

You've made friends with some awesome people in the process of getting help with this problem, and if you face a similar problem in future, you'll be better prepared. These people (and one in particular) are the most intelligent, considerate, compassionate, and caring friends you will ever have.

Oh, and modest, too. ;)

 

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I think it might be time to hunt for the silver lining. He's the best man you've met so far, but you...

Dearest peeps, I haven't been on this thread for awhile but wanted to check back and offer support. @LoveMyNavyChief! You are so not alone. My combat medic announced in January he was moving out and It's been six months of feeling flat or bad. I feel like a puppy who was loved and then thrown out a car window. But I am moving forward. I am selling my condo. I rented it for the summer and moved in with a friend. I wrote in my journal that I woke up happy June 24. He has my cat temporarily because I didn't know what to do with him. I gave him cat support. When I dropped off my cat, my ex didn t even look at me. He just said, "Where is the cat?"
That sent me reeling for a month. Then out of the blue, I got a text of him chilling with my cat. He said, Hope you have a good day. I thanked him. That was a couple days ago.
It is so hard to deal with our shells of loved ones. But I am slowly healing. I tried dating but wasn't ready. I also wasn't connecting with anyone. Meanwhile, I have put my energy into photography and yoga. Life goes on. Sending you so much support. Few people get it. My friends think my ex is just an asshole. They don't get why It's so hard to move on. But you all do. Love, me