What do you avoid at all costs?

[illusionist]

Confrontation.

Dr/ hospital appointments.

Busy crowds.

Appointments with authorative figures.

Empty cupboards.

Being out, alone, in the dark.

Low bank balance.

 

[Changing4Best]

Confrontation.

Dr/ hospital appointments.

Busy crowds.

Appointments with authorative figures.

E...

That being alone out in the dark, my goodness, can I relate to that one!

 

[MrMoonlight]

Commitment

 

[Changing4Best]

Yeh, I decided that marriage, after my beloved husband died, was not going to be an option. My boyfriend is not so pleased about this, but he has accepted it.

 

[Changing4Best]

One thing that the above mentioned book by Sheela Raja basically says (that I think we all need to know) is that it has been found that PTSD seems to be worse in those who regularly practice avoidance than in those who don't! So we need to get a handle on this!!! The author sites a study done by "Malta et al. 2009" as her source.

 

[MrMoonlight]

I'm looking for a PTSD book that can teach me about the reasons behind my thinking and behaviour.

Would you recommend that book for those reasons?

 

[Changing4Best]

I'm looking for a PTSD book that can teach me about the reasons behind my thinking and behaviour.

Would...

Yes, very much so. And it has so much more in it too, like a lot of solutions and things that you can do at home to overcome the thinking and behaviour and also desensitize emotions and thoughts that bother you.

 

[MrMoonlight]

Thanks so much..sounds like the one to get. Today has been an emotionally rocky day..would love to recognize/minimize the thinking leading to that place.

 

[BpinkJ]

Public bathrooms
Having bowel movements when someone is home
showering alone
open doors of any kind
spiders
snakes
having to speak to a large crowd
people looking at me for any reason
eye contact
germs
people sneezing and coughing makes me want to lose it
highways if possible
putting my feet under the covers unless I look under first
my back being to anything.

I have a lot but am back in T working on it.

 

[NewBeginnings]

I learned along the way that the harder I try to totally avoid stuff, the more it slaps me in the face in some way or another,

Forgot this .... my t has said that anxiety basically equals avoidance. Ughhh and when I look at days that I am more anxious I usually find that I am working really hard at not facing things.

Good reminder!

 

[honeypie058]

I avoid conflict and touch. I hide when there is conflict. The only people who can hug me are my kids and sometimes that's hard to do. I cannot have anyone hover behind me so I'm always on edge in my surroundings.

 

[Changing4Best]

Public bathrooms
Having bowel movements when someone is home
showering alone
open doors of any kind
spid...

I'm glad you are working on it, that is really all we can do. I'm still working on mine too, 15+ years into therapy, probably will be in therapy all my life, unless I would not be able to afford it or something.