Harsh truths you now see because of ptsd

[user44376]

I find I'm less-triggered by public situations like being in a big mall or a crowd etc. That still flares up but I've learned how to cope. Usually. My triggers all deal with things on a personal level. Interacting with one person usually. I find that in big crowds and malls etc I get extremely irritable and impatient with people. I guess technically that means I'm triggered but to me it feels different than having a flashback hearing news from my former career field, or seeing trauma, reliving etc. It's extremely difficult to deal with how many people are simply rude and inconsiderate. Clueless that other people are around them and they're not at home despite the fact theyre wearing pyjamas to the mall for some reason. Dealing with this shit was hard enough when I wasn't full batshit like I am now.

So it's a challenge to not let others influence me when I'm usually only talking to one person who's likely very close to me and has influence whether he or I like it or not; or else it's dealing with general public assholery.

I'd be interested in hearing how others handle these situations. Those small rude things in life that irritate a mind already weak from trying to fix or fight other crap.

 

[user44376]

I learned that I was nothing after being diagnosed. I learned that people will always disappoint me, I lea...

Great post. Couldn't have put it better.

Related to not rocking the family boat, I have to add that it was unreal to see how many people do not want to hear the truth. In any way. I'm a brutally honest man and I heard the word "tact" a lot. I just couldn't sit in a room and listen to bullshit and how everything is about feelings. I got disciplined so often for the shit I said lol. But no one wants to hear it, or anything negative.

Being in a situation where you know the truth and realize it has no power there, it's all about muh feelz and being polite, that was the day part of me died.

The only thing more amazing to watch than people hiding from the truth is what people do to avoid being alone.

 

[Tinyflame]

Idk @AddHomnym they say tact is the ability to light a fire under one's rear without making their blood boil.

People have so many things about them we do not know, even do not know about ourselves. If you tried to hit the nail on the head and they disagreed, or were not ready to hear it, you still tried and did so in your way.

Most of my best friends are very direct, but good listeners too, not trying to be mean either I know; I am best comfortable with that because I like clear direction.

Carry on.

 

[EveHarrington]

The only thing more amazing to watch than people hiding from the truth is what people do to avoid being alone.

SO f*ckING TRUE!!!!

People go to such great lengths to not be alone. I think it's pathetic as they just end up miserable anyway.

 

[Neverthesame]

Harsh truths?
There's only a couple that really matter to me.
Death is real, death will happen, death doesn't care how old you are, what you've done, who'll you'll be, who you are, who you know or who is watching when you go.

The other is that, no one else really understands. Or wants to.
Who could blame them?

 

[Beans]

Hmmm I've been thinking about this thread. I really don't know that there are harsh truths I've learned.. I've been the skeptic and distrustful of life and pple. If anything I'm learning life and pple are not as bad as i thought. I guess the harsh truth is i was raised with mentally ill, violent, abusive pple and they traumatized me and colored my views immensely. I've missed out on a lot of life and a lot of love living under their rules. I guess another one is that I'm the only one who can give myself the love that I want and need. Other pple care and will love me but it's on me to know myself and give myself what I need, there is no rescuer.

I suppose most of my harsh truths have been about myself (not in a blaming way either,just in a... clearing a clutter of beliefs of who i am, why i am, what i'm capable of.) Truth about life and pple seem to mostly be for the better from what beliefs I was working under.

 

[8888]

I learned that even religious people can be abusive. But I have to say I have been lucky to have met some great people who know what happened to me and support me.

 

[Deleted member 44529]

The big truths for me are:

1) Never underestimate the lengths to which people will go to avoid accountability

2) It's still amazing every time someone who could claim plausible deniability stands up and speaks the truth and holds someone accountable. It's especially so when they don't back down, admit failure to see it sooner, and know that speaking out will have negative consequences for them (see #1).

 

[Tinyflame]

I think my limitations, would be one, for me.

Less harsh, I possibly understand my dad a bit better.

 

[Renew]

PTSD has showed me that even your own family can be so cruel and unloving. They can be narcissistic and enjoy projecting their own crap onto their beloved scapegoats. I have been one my whole life. PTSD has showed me that I am stronger than my abusers and that they wouldn't have stood a chance in my shoes, however. It has showed me that some have been successful because, they literally have chewed their ways to the top, eating up anyone in their way and leaving nothing left of their victims. That's how they work.

 

[Swanyboy55]

I think there's a difference between showing weakness and being real. Most people aren't real enough or h...

I have the same problem and I was just curious on to what kind of coping skills you use to help deal with those people

 

[Deleted member 12723]

After PTSD and some good therapy, I get the wonderful world of feeling the most intense feelings that I have repressed and it is a bitch doing it. I know it is good for me and the feelings always eventually pass away and I do feel better after I express them, but it is one hell of a ride. I know that this is the right thing for me to do right now. It sure is a painful learning experience for me.