Confused, i need some help

[Super CoolTM]

I will take a day to figure this out, since my brain always does. But the first day is always confusing, learning new info for me.

My boyfriend has schizophrenia, as do I, but he's more severe than me. He recently got some new meds that help him and he's broken out of the mindset that he was 18, from Russia, etc. He is not, and I'm just confused, because I had been thinking he was these things.

I understand the situation and I still love him relentlessly, but I am confused with many conflicting emotions. I don't actually know him like I thought, so I am just a bit off set. How do I deal with this? I will wait a day

 

[anonymous]

So his schizophrenia symptoms lead him to believe he was 18 and from Russia when he wasn’t?

Maybe you could both meet with a therapist together to figure this out.

I had a friend who was paranoid and delusional for a time, and it was confusing to see her believe things about herself and everyone around her that were so untrue. I felt relief when she got better. I can see how it would be more confusing if I had only known her when she was delusional and then she got better.

It is kind of like getting to know someone all over again.

I’d try to get to know him again. Take this slow. Grieve what you need to grieve.

 

[joeylittle]

he's broken out of the mindset that he was 18, from Russia, etc. He is not, and I'm just confused, because I had been thinking he was these things.

It sounds like this is an online relationship?

Many people misrepresent themselves. Lying is a thing people do, for all sorts of reasons. Mental illness may or may not have anything to do with it.

My boyfriend has schizophrenia, as do I, but he's more severe than me.

You don’t have schizophrenia, according to your (ex) doctor. You say no-one will diagnose you or medicate you for it, and thus it is untreated. I’d recommend working on managing symptoms and hopefully, eventually, getting to an understanding of your condition - whatever it may be.

Relationships make everything more complicated, but they are also a big part of coming into young adulthood. I would encourage you to seek possible relationships in your 3-D world (if it’s correct that this is an online relationship), and with people who tell the truth.

If he’s not just lying - if he is schizophrenic - then he’s not a very healthy relationship for you - certainly not while you have an unmanaged mental illness.

 

[Super CoolTM]

It sounds like this is an online relationship?

Many people misrepresent themselves. Lying is a...

Okay, I understand. Thank you