I can't live with my parents, but i can't leave them.

[Justmehere]

What is holding you back?

 

[white hyacinth]

What is holding you back?

I have a bunch of other appointments lined up already

 

[Deleted member 541]

What’s more important to you??? Other appointments or getting help so that you can function and finally make plans to get out of your parents house and be on your own????

 

[white hyacinth]

Blaming your parents won't get you anywhere.

Are you f*cking kidding me? Recognizing and identifying my parents as one of the many sources of my trauma and PTSD is a necessary step in recovering from my childhood. That's a hell of a lot different from unwarranted "blaming", as you so carelessly put it. Yet according to you that won't get me anywhere.

If that's all you're doing in therapy, you might want to consider changing something.

Yeah of course that's actually all I'm doing in therapy, smartass.

sit around and complain about how your parents "make" you feel

Really? I'm just SITTING AROUND and COMPLAINING? If trying to get emotional support from people with similar problems is just f*ckING COMPLAINING then everyone on this website is just another useless complainer. Way to downplay everything I was going through.

"your therapist ought to be able to help" "there's more you can do"
I have already tried so many different ways to get "help", I've tried a number of different therapists, IOP, and medications, but they've all been inadequate at best or even more harmful at worst. I know better now than to go to people for help, that's for sure. And I'm not gonna exhaust every option out there like a desperate idiot. I'm done searching for so called "help", I'm only going to get hurt more.

your parents "make" you feel.

And what do you f*cking mean "MAKE"? THEY ABUSED ME. THEY "MADE" ME LIKE THIS. THEY ARE THE BIGGEST REASON I HAVE PTSD AND DEPRESSION, AND THUS: SUICIDAL THOUGHTS. NO QUOTATION MARKS NECESSARY, SMARTASS.

This site should be for people to give advice and support to each other but all you did was minimize my problems. I tried to forget about this reply but I can't let this go unchecked.

 

[bumbles]

I'm sorry you're in such an unfortunate situation.
I guess my advice would be to stick with your therapist, it can be a long hard road, but it is worth it and can help to get you into better shape so you can get out on your own.
As for the living situation, that is super rough. Are there any hobbies you can take up that could help you get engaged spending time out of the house? I know it doesn't fix anything really, but less time around them seems like it could be better for you.
Also that super cheesy quote about something something if you can't find a good person, be a good person has a good point. I know it can be really hard to trust the motives of others, people like to put their negative views of others on blast, but I promise there are people out there who aren't horrible. It just takes a little rummaging around to find them sometimes. I wish you the best

 

[Friday]

I go to therapy, talk to my therapist about how my parents make me want to die

Yeah of course that's actually all I'm doing in therapy

I can’t tell if you’re being sarcastic here, or not.

Thats all some people do in therapy.

They’re not processing trauma, learning coping skills, changing out coping mechanisms, learning tools & life skills, working on stabilization, emotional monitoring or regulation, finding solutions to problems, engaging in any kind of CBT / CPT / tfCBT / EMDR / Exposure Therapy or any other focused therapies to deal with the effects of their trauma or ongoing problems, etc., etc., etc..

They’re just talking about some aspect of their lives.

Which is totally adequate for most life problems, just completely inadequate for a disorder like PTSD.

So, IS that all you do? Talk about how your parents make you want to die? Or do you do other stuff, too?

 

[joeylittle]

@lullaby19 - you responded to @scout86’s post about 6 months ago. Then, you came back today to respond again.

That’s a long time to hold onto something.

How is your living situation going? And how are things in therapy?

 

[scout86]

That's a hell of a lot different from unwarranted "blaming", as you so carelessly put it.

I didn't put it that way carelessly. I put it that way because there IS a big difference between recognizing causes and responsibility and "blame". Even when blaming someone might be totally warranted.

When you "blame" someone, the way I understand it, you give them all the power. "Everything is all their fault, there's nothing I can do." That's a option. But it's an option that leaves you stuck. If you're looking for options to get unstuck, you have to look somewhere else.

 

[mumstheword]

Parents can be horrendous to live with. I ended up on my own, at 16, coz mine were pretty much killing me, mentally and emotionally.
Everyone has choice. Some people choice is between a scary and horrid one and a scarier and more horrid one.
But we all have choice. I'm sorry life is so hard and terrible for you, but I'm sure there is something you can find to hang on to, give you a way forward and some direction to move toward.