Ifst fear is afraid of other parts? help!

[EveHarrington]

I’m doing IFST

For those who are doing it too, can parts turn on one another?

I......well, FEAR is afraid of other parts turning on the self.....or is it that FEAR is afraid of other parts turning on FEAR?

I’m (self is) pretty well blended with fear at the moment and FEAR is a young part.

I guess self did a good job of convincing protectors to stand down because now the self feels the pain of this exile.

I wish I was farther along and knew how to handle this!

 

[Freida]

Oh yea.... especially on the exiles. My other parts hate her -- she embarrasses them and her existence makes them feel.... hell I don't even have a word for it. Even typing this I can feel them yammering at how they hate her. It's the one thing I (self) and they agree on -- she needs to die.

If I suddenly told them I was taking her side? Yea - there's a 6 month run of therapy to quell the mutiny.

FEAR is afraid of other parts turning on FEAR?

Well --- if she is the exile they have already turned on her. They kicked her out of the group and sent her away. And she knows that. So I'm wondering how they are reacting to the idea that you (self) are suddenly letting her(fear) come out.

I love that your protectors agreed to give you time to meet with her and feel her pain. That is awesome!!

I would count this as a win - and that you are handling it perfectly!

 

[EveHarrington]

Oh yea.... especially on the exiles. My other parts hate her -- she embarrasses them and her existence m...

Somehow.....and I still don’t know exactly how.....I was able to convince all of the relevant protectors that SELF can handle whatever comes her way. I’m still kind of shocked that it happened so quickly. Usually my protectors are up in arms, blended with me to various extents, and I feel no pain of the exiles.

So far no protectors are showing any anger (or any other feeling) towards FEAR or towards SELF. I guess this means they trust SELF? Just thoughts of “get away!” Or at least that’s what they used to think.

I don’t think my protectors hate FEAR. They know she is a child part in pain and they just don’t want me to feel that pain. I just don’t get any feelings of negativity beyond “can’t let SELF feel this!” I could be wrong, but this is the sense I am getting right now.

I guess I meant “turning on her” in the sense that they are going to get really nasty with her and start attacking her, beyond feelings of just wanting to get away from her. I had a stint a few months ago where I wanted FEAR to die. Errr, uhm, I think ANGER wanted FEAR to die. It was a bad day and it took hours before I could get SELF back on center stage. Not a good day. I had so many parts running amok.

 

[Freida]

I think you are doing an amazing job!! You are so far ahead of me and I have the luxury of a t!!!

..I was able to convince all of the relevant protectors that SELF can handle whatever comes her way

That rocks!! Getting to that point..where all the others begin to trust you ( self) is the beginning of the end for healing! Yeah!!!

I just don’t get any feelings of negativity beyond “can’t let SELF feel this!” I could be wrong, but this is the sense I am getting right now.

I've had that...where the protectors jump in because the are hiding the truth from me(self). I've also had them use it against me....as in...
"You want to know!?!! Fine! Here's 30 seconds! How do you like that!"
I've had to learn to take time out and send protector thanks and ask that we work together. Stay tuned!

ANGER wanted FEAR to die.

So how does anger feel now?

 

[EveHarrington]

@Freida

Thank you!!!

Anger doesn’t want fear to die. I’m glad that was a (seemingly) isolated incident. It was almost two months ago before I had started really working with my parts and didn’t want to do this work because in part I (some part) was throwing a fit about essentially having to “parent” my child parts.