Do you get nervous before seeing t?

[13ReasonsWhyNot]

Hi there! I see my T today, who I really like and feel very comfortable with, but it seems like on the days where I have an appointment with her I'm super anxious and nervous and shaking. I wake up that way, going from 0 to 120 in less than a second. I've only been going to therapy since last summer so I was wondering if this is a normal kind of thing or if I'm just off the charts with unnecessary anxiety! How do you feel on T day?

 

[EveHarrington]

Why would you think it’s unnecessary? You’re being faced with talking about very serious things!

 

[Supervixn]

Is it fear of the unknown and the fact that you're newer to therapy? There may be some issues you're sensing on some level are going to be brought up in upcoming sessions and your body is just freaking out in some kind of anticipatory fight/flight defense. I get that way too and skipped almost a month of therapy finding reasons to avoid therapy or quit all together. I'll be going back to my T on Saturday and yes I'm alwayyysss nervous despite how great she is. It's hard stuff to talk about and deal with.

I think it's pretty normal. Trust yourself, trust the process and trust your T if they have been good for you so far. Your body will respond and react to the anxiety and it's important to just keep trucking through. It's worth it. Your health is worth it. You're worth it. Keep being strong! You got this!!

 

[13ReasonsWhyNot]

Why would you think it’s unnecessary? You’re being faced with talking about very serious thin...

Thanks Eve! Yeah, true, but then one part of me says to knock it off (as if I can just turn anxiety off like a light) because it's safe there and she's there to help. I'm an anxious person anyway but even more so on T days. I don't even know where therapy will go today but I'm still jittery about it to the point where I feel like vomiting.

Is it fear of the unknown and the fact that you're newer to therapy? There may be some issues you're...

Thanks Supervixn! Glad to know I'm not the only one and I'm glad you're going back to your T--nerves be damned! :) You're so right-just keep on trucking! I wonder if there will ever be a time where I'm not trying to keep my breakfast down on T day?

 

[Supervixn]

As you develop stronger trust in your T you may struggle less but I think anxiety will always have flair ups here and there. It's important to remind yourself that it's normal and will pass and that you're doing something loving and caring to yourself that will eventually pay off.

 

[Justmehere]

I’ve been seeing my therapist for some time. I trust her more than anyone. I still struggle to sleep the night before and I’m antsy and anxious beforehand. I know I’m safe, and yet I’m nervous all the same.

It’s common be anxious. Frankly, good trauma therapy is hard. It’s not a walk in the park. It’s common to see that symptoms get worse before they get better.

If it was a place where only happy feel good topics were talked about, well then it wouldn’t be trauma therapy.

That all being said, I’d suggest talking to your therapist about the anxiety. Some changes may need to be made, and even if not, the process of talking through it can be helpful.

The more therapists know how we are feeling about therapy, and any concerns or feelings about therapy that come up, the better they can help us walk through it and do the work.

 

[13ReasonsWhyNot]

As you develop stronger trust in your T you may struggle less but I think anxiety will always have fl...

I guess it goes back to that saying, "The only way out is through." (That phrasing is ironic, considering that night when I realized what was about to happen and that I was trapped, the only option I had to escape would have had to be through him, which was a definite non-option considering his size and strength.) I hope all goes well for you Saturday!!

I’ve been seeing my therapist for some time. I trust her more than anyone. I still struggle to sle...

Cool-I'm glad it's common to be anxious. I always tell people that nobody would want to live inside my head, (since there's so much anxiety in there) but in this case if it's a normal response I feel better about it. I like your idea though--I wish they could invent a trauma therapy where only happy feel good topics were talked about. It would be so relaxing! :)

 

[MrMoonlight]

I have my 3rd ever therapy appointment in two hours. Yesterday evening and this morning I have been anxious, not to the point of freaking out but my mind is running. I know we are only working on grounding, mindfulness and relaxation today but sitll, I am apprehensive.

 

[anonymous]

I did with my previous therapist, used to get the runs too..not with my new one though because she's so kind.

 

[13ReasonsWhyNot]

I have my 3rd ever therapy appointment in two hours. Yesterday evening and this morning I have been...

Oh man-good luck! I'm glad you're not freaking out. I hope you aren't having to run to the bathroom either!

I did with my previous therapist, used to get the runs too..not with my new one though because she's...

Oh my gosh I was typing a response to MrMoonlight about the bathroom when you said you used to get the runs!! I've been dealing with that all morning!! :D

 

[Justmehere]

I wish they could invent a trauma therapy where only happy feel good topics were talked about.

Me too! Oh that would so wonderful!

 

[MrMoonlight]

I hope you aren't having to run to the bathroom either!

Somatization for me in the form of vomiting, diarrhea, nausea has been bothersome and anymore, expected when I really think about my stuff. I dip into conversion disorder if I'm really triggered but man I can relate to the bathroom trips. Sorry you are going through this stuff..