Does anyone else getting weirded out . . .

[hodge]

. . . when a person of the opposite sex who is at least 20 years younger than you comes on to you?

This has happened to me most recently on FB the other day when a much, much younger guy with whom I am not friends sent me a message saying, "Hello, pretty." I mean, sure, it's flattering when you're a 54-year-old woman, but there is no way I can respond. He's old enough to be my freaking son! And even if I weren't happily married, it would disconcert me. I also have it displayed on my profile page that I am married.

I've also had more age-appropriate guys show their interest, but that doesn't bother me as much. The vast majority of them are decent guys who seem to be happy to be just friends when I let them know in as polite and nonconfrontational way as possible that I am happily married. And we all generally just talk politics.

I know I could just replace my profile photo with something else, but after years of hiding I like to have that openness about me, because I just like to be honest about myself. Maybe I need to think on that some more. Idk.

Oh, and just to be clear, this is a simple head shot. I was wearing a black shirt with absolutely no cleavage showing. It was a photo a fellow artist took of me for portfolios.

 

[Deleted member 37474]

My friend and I were hit on, walking on the trails near our houses.... by a group of teenaged boys. Couldn’t understand what the appeal of middle aged women was. My husband later said they possibly were doing it on a dare. Anyways. It scared me. I have also been harassed or flirted with by both high school and junior high students in the schools as well.

 

[Abstract]

Yes, I get wierded out! Especially if it is overtly sexual.

 

[EveHarrington]

Well not 20 years as that would be illegal lol but I had a guy online hit on me saying he liked “older women”. I told him rule number 1 of hitting on an older woman......do NOT call her an older woman. :hilarious:

 

[Friday]

LMFAO.

I realized I was on the wrong side of 30 when the 40yos stopped hitting on me, and the 20yos started. :facepalm:

 

[Sideways]

Nah - online stuff that doesn’t seem right? I assume it’s a scam or they’re gonna try and sell me something, and it’s time to update my security settings.

 

[hodge]

It's happened to me in person, too. Otherwise, yes, @Ragdoll Circus, I'd figure the same. Though you are probably right about this latest FB thing.

I think the reason this creeps me out is because it reminds me of me in my teens and early 20s. I was always attracted to older guys. I think I was looking for a father figure. And I got burned too many times for it.

 

[Gs172003]

LMFAO.

I realized I was on the wrong side of 30 when the 40yos stopped hitting on me, and the 20yos st...

Ha!

Says alot about the 40 yos too doesn't it.

 

[shatter eyes]

It could be a scam or another anthony weiner waiting for ur response then surprise....weiner pics.

Giggity giggity hello pretty says Quagmire.

 

[Deleted member 541]

@hodge Just another asshole in the sea of assholes. Don’t let this bother you, just block the idiot...

 

[illusionist]

@hodge .......I used to be on a site where I didn't have a profile pic up but still got hit on, on a regular basis....they're just changers...ignore or block.

 

[Abstract]

I don't do anything online and mine too have been in person. When it reminds you of you at that age what are your thoughts about this? Is it about them or you?