What's your good news?

[Rose White]

I went for a walk with the dogs by myself without time constraints and allowed myself to do a little moon ritual in which I contemplated balance and harmony in my relationship. Also, a friend that I felt brave enough to reach out to texted me back and said she wants to hang out and we made a plan! Feels like we’ve been here before, but I’m trying to be much gentler on myself regarding any mistakes I am bound to make as I claw my way back into the social world, one fearfully wonderful yet hopefully restrained and sustainable interaction at a time. Not overthinking it, not trying to perfectionize it.

 

[Fadeaway]

Found out today I don't have to have a surgery I was going to refuse anyways.

 

[Gs172003]

My husband does not have the flu yay

 

[mumstheword]

My oldest daughter loves me! (I didn't know if she did for the longest time).
I'm going into a trauma program for three weeks as an inpatient! ( getting proper treatment is the biggest deal, in my case).
My guy gave up tobacco.
My youngest daughter just got her first job (after school at a pizzeria, she is 16)
To all of the above; Yay! Yay!Yay! :p:happy::joyful:

 

[Deleted member 12723]

I was able with the help of good friends to resolve a mystery. I now feel one hundred percent absolved it is not my fault at all.

 

[EveHarrington]

I had a good day!

(Been waiting on this since OCTOBER!)

 

[expectingbetter]

@EveHarrington I had a good day yesterday! I've been waiting for it since June!
I am so grateful I didn't ruin the significance of the day! As I usually tend to ruin.

 

[anonymous]

I was able with the help of good friends to resolve a mystery. I now feel one hundred percent absolved it is not my fault at all.

This is not productive, if you don't own your part of it all then you will always be alone and lonely.

Scapegoating and shifting blame sure help us to feel superior, better than, we can engage in the hobby of blaming and putting down, but it doesn't do much for having real relationships based on us owning all our own stuff.

I feel really, really sad for you to read this, this is not a path that leads to honesty, connection and belonging. The blaming path leads to loneliness and whilst we have the comfort of blaming others, we know deep in our hearts that we have to show up, step and take responsibility. If we don't then we lose. We lose human connections. We lose our families because our behaviours are too hard for them to deal with.

There are other ways through other than finding people who agree that you are not to blame because they are also not owning their own issues.

 

[EveHarrington]

This is not productive, if you don't own your part of it all then you will always be alone and lonely...

Whoa.

How in the world did you come up with this based on Rain’s very short post?

I think you’re reading way too much into what she said.

 

[Freida]

@littleoc this was a great idea!!!! thank you!

I survived my disability interview with the VA!! yeah me!

 

[Deleted member 29920]

I think you’re reading way too much into what she said.

I do too.

 

[littleoc]

This is not productive, if you don't own your part of it all then you will always be alone and lonely...

Thanks for your input, but I think I have to agree with others. While normally this is great advice and important to keep in mind -- and it's so wonderful to see someone in the community trying to look out for others -- I think maybe this mystery could have been about anything!

I find a common problem people have, even people without PTSD, is blaming themselves for way too many things. You can't take too much responsibility. :) So I'm guessing we're seeing the great end to an event like that.

I don't know one way or the other, but I'm pretty optimistic these days! :)

So, anonymous, do you have any good news? Make this about you!