Advice needed

[Deleted member 44579]

Hi I am supposed to go to a meet up thing tomorrow evening... But my ex friend who hurt me and treated me like shit is going to be there. I have missed a few nights because she is also in the meet up group.

I am just trying to make new friends.. And I know I will be fine... I think... But I don't know how she might react. It's nearly been a year since this happened but I'm unsure what to do.. It's making me anxious and stressed... Not good for PTSD.. What would you do?...

 

[Deleted member 37474]

Hi I am supposed to go to a meet up thing tomorrow evening... But my ex friend who hurt me and treated me...

Can’t you always leave if you get there and it is too much stress for you? If benedryl calms you, you could take that before you go. You could also burn off some anxiety with exercise a few hours before hand. Calm grounding exercises. Take care of you, then go and have fun. You can always leave!

 

[Deleted member 44579]

Can’t you always leave if you get there and it is too much stress for you? If benedryl calms you, you...

Thankyou textcat.. I forgot that.....

 

[EveHarrington]

I would go. She may not even be there, right? You deserve to attend just as much as she does. Be cordial and hold your head high. If she chooses to engage in any negativity, just excuse yourself. Good luck!

 

[Freida]

I would hesitate to go unless I really grounded myself first because I become uber bitch when I'm confronted - especially by someone who has hurt me.

But - at the same time I wouldn't want to miss out on new opportunities. I agree with the rest - go, enjoy yourself, leave if it isn't making you happy...

 

[Deleted member 44579]

I would hesitate to go unless I really grounded myself first because I become uber bitch when I'm confro...

Thanks Freida... I didn't go in the end... But thats OK....