Parents against therapy?

[alfa]

I just wanted to say -- thank you all for the advice and support! I'm grateful that you all are by my side when it feels like everything is working against me. Much love.

 

[alfa]

I called the hotline and spoke to a kind young woman. She didn't really know what to say to a lot of my questions but she referred me to another hotline for their input. I was biking around outside so that my parents didn't know it was a hotline, but when I stepped back in to write down the number, I heard my mother talking about how ungrateful I am and that she had it much worse and doesn't need therapy. I'm getting aggravated. I am grateful for the roof over my head and the food on my table. This is not the issue. She's not understanding. I really think I should talk to my teacher because the hotlines really don't feel personal enough. I'm just afraid of crying in front of him at this point. Overwhelmed. Sorry about posting so much. This is the only place where I can talk openly about things, apparently.

 

[Freida]

It's ok to cry in front of your teacher. If he is the person you trust them talk to him. He may not be able to fix it but he should be able to help you find the help you need

And yes..you can talk openly here....so post away

 

[scout86]

she had it much worse and doesn't need therapy

This is kind of a common thing for some people to say and think. You're right, she doesn't understand. Maybe, eventually, she will. (Maybe not. Your aunt might have some insight into that.) There are probably a lot of things about this that will be hard for your parents to understand and accept. That kind of comes with the territory a lot of times. (Sorry!)

Don't worry about crying, rumor has it that's a normal, human reaction, so it's not only acceptable, it's good.

 

[Cactus Bloom]

This is kind of a common thing for some people to say and think. You're right, she doesn't understand....

Please keep posting as many times as you need. We are here for you. I am here for you. I don’t have any advice and I so wish I could scoop you up and take care of you because I hate that you’re hurting and want to fix it and I am irritated that I don’t have super powers to do this:rolleyes: Please keep posting whatever you need to okay?

 

[alfa]

I feel like I should give up and wait until I turn 18 to deal with this. Maybe the next 3 years will fly by. I just don't want to deal with them yelling at me about this. It's making things far worse.

 

[Suzetig]

There are things you can do to help you while you work out what to do about therapy. If you post about the things that are causing you difficulties just now there’s lots of wisdom on these boards that will really help you to cope. Or have a read around some of the boards that deal with particular symptoms.

Diagnosed or not, some things work better than others so it’ll be trial and error, but it would be anyway so you’ve not got anything to loose.

 

[Freida]

The longer you wait the harder it gets. Which sucks. Maybe you could reach out and talk with your teacher and then decide??

 

[scout86]

The next 3 years WILL fly by, but it probably won't seem that way while you're living them. Get as much support as you can, both irl and here. I wish there was a magic way to fix all this!

 

[Freida]

do you have a counselor assigned to your school? Is that an option?

 

[Scarlet13]

So I wanted to reply to you to tell you that teachers are mandatory reporters and they will let the principal and poss the counselor know as well.
I am a teacher and if a student came to me to disclose abuse I would let my principal know and either she (he) or I would be required to notify social services and parents.
This is all for your safety. If you were being abused then there would be interventions.
We are careful about all of this though and think it through.
Are you safe?
Can your abuser still get to you?
You could potentially talk to your teacher still, I just wanted you to know what the legal obligations are.
You would honestly not want an adult to keep it confidential if you were actively being harmed.
But even if the abuse has stopped we are obligated to report.
You may try, for now, mentioning your symptoms to your teacher.
What if this teacher rec therapy, would your parents budge then?
Would that work?
I had a mom a lot like yours. She was not always bad and I could some times get her to help me and see my side.
I had friends that I talked to about my child SA and this helped.
I had attachments to teachers who were self esteem building. I threw myself into art and theater.
I hope you can find some help. There will be lots of resources in college or when your 18.
Would your parents let you join a teen skills group like DBT group now?
There are lots of ways to manage trauma symptoms if you cannot get into therapy quite yet like art, writing, music, friends, becoming involved in school, school work. I used to exercise like swimming.
You will get help and there is family all around you.