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Okay, so thinking about this motivation stuff more... I just realised that *everything* my abusive FOO taught me to do was fear-based motivation.
Perp was always like "what will the neighbours think?!?!?!?!" and everthing in that vein.
And pretty much all things like "get good grades in school" and "get a good job" were about "else you will be horrifically poor and become homeless and die destitute".
Everything you were meant to "do" in life was all about averting disaster or preventing bad things from happening or preventing other people looking down on you or talking badly about you.
All of it was fear-based.
Fark.
That's insane.
Perp was always like "what will the neighbours think?!?!?!?!" and everthing in that vein.
And pretty much all things like "get good grades in school" and "get a good job" were about "else you will be horrifically poor and become homeless and die destitute".
Everything you were meant to "do" in life was all about averting disaster or preventing bad things from happening or preventing other people looking down on you or talking badly about you.
All of it was fear-based.
Fark.
That's insane.