Humiliation and anger

[Justmehere]

A couple of situations have led me to feel extremely humiliated lately, especially about trauma, but about other things as well, and it's leading to feeling very tense and angry. I almost snapped at a friend yesterday, and almost again today. I'm isolating at home tonight to keep myself from being pissed with anyone. I can't seem to shake off the tension in my body with usual grounding and coping skills.

Anyone deal with this?

 

[LuckiLee]

Can you "burn" it off doing something physical? Exercise? Or can you share the situation here and we can talk you through it. Sorry you're feeling like this.

 

[Justmehere]

Exercise isn't working to burn off the anger. :(

 

[Freida]

yoga or meditating? Maybe something that focuses on your breathing?

 

[Rani G2]

feeling very tense and angry. I almost snapped at a friend yesterday, and almost again today. I'm isolating at home tonight to keep myself from being pissed with anyone. I can't seem to shake off the tension in my body with usual grounding and coping skills.

@Justmehere... yes I understand very well.

Had a „situation“at work and I go right into my old battlefield of „I must fight-I didn’t fight-so I was weak.com“. No yoga skills and my mind can become a terrorist at times.
My T says: Visualize the „safe place“, put that very special music on! Take your Kids, helper parts, and all of you‘s to that special place and make yourself feel comfortable. Not sure if I can do it today, I will go to the Gym and work my a** off...

Hope you feel better soon. :-)

 

[Mach123]

This is an awful, ugly feeling and sadly, something I know so well. Having sex fixes me up. That's bad I suppose but good or bad I can't deny that it works and it's the only thing that ever worked. Killing or in some lesser way getting even with whoever (I'm not violent) is something I used to turn over endlessly in my mind and I couldn't make it go away. It was like torture. No one does that to me now but that's because I don't have anything to do with anyone. My wife drives me crazy because she has this ability somehow never to have this happen? IDK how she does it but I've never in thirty years heard her say anything like this. I think I look for it. Someone left me a link in another thread for a book about how our trauma makes us repeat compulsively. For me it's not sex acts or cutting myself which I always thought that meant. It's this. I think it's like me getting what I don't want or what I dislike the most. : (

 

[Flip00008]

Hey! Sorry this is going on... I have felt this way a few times. My go to thing is to get outdoors and bring my bible along with me. I free my mind and usually I feel alot better and seem to be less "on edge". I will be praying for you and hope to hear from you soon.

 

[HealingInProcess]

I have been able at times to self talk my way out of anger by deconstructing it. I tell myself what is anger for? It's a defense mechanism and if there is no current threat there is nothing to defend against or, if I can't do something about a current threat (such as leave or defend myself) then the anger is not helping because I know what it's signaling but I can't do anything about it. Basically I just try to affirm to myself that I'm angry and I'm aware of it and I'm not ashamed about it and it's normal.

Sometimes I've found you just need to feel it out though and let it work its way out of you. It's like lancing a boil.

 

[mumstheword]

I'm going through similar issue/feelings

. My self esteem has taken a sizable dint. I lost my appetite, completely, over it, and have decided to allow my body to go into ketosis to relieve the stress of it all, so I stopped eating (this latest crisis event happened yesterday).

I'm overweight anyway and have done my research, I will fast safely and stop when I need to.

Being in ketosis is said to help with mood regulation. You can acheive it without fasting with Keto products and/or a keto diet which is low in carbs.

Interestingly, early treatment for PTSD was to put people into ketosis, it is better for your brain to be fed with ketones, than to be fed with glucose, if you have a brain injury, and PTSD is exactly that. Good results are being acheived with epilepsy too.

So anyway, I relate, and am comforted, in a "I-need-peers-to-destigmatize-my-own-sense-of-self kind of way.

It's exactly what I've been going through, and I was really angry. I remembered to add mindful compassion to the situation and I analysed it and realized that the people I'm going through this with dont have very good social skills, either, in fact, worse than mine. I am Aspie as well as c-ptsd so that is something I've struggled with all my life. So, I feel some compassion for myself and the other people. I'm still a bit pissed and hurt by them, and don't want any more situations where I have to go through the humiliation, so intensely, coz, I've had so much humiliation and, I'm conscious that it's like a toxic overload for me now.

I'm going to avoid those people who are so insensitive and unaware and that trample all over my feelings that lead to the humiliation and I think that is what the anger towards them is about. It's like an emotional/social allegy that I've developed and the anger is the self preservation and self protection kicking in.

The self esteem is what needs attending to now. Something I've had to, consciously, work and work and work on.

At this stage compassion for self is the best remedy for the self esteem damage. And, the radical dietary move, on my part, coz I need this gift of weight loss and emotional regulation and I'm confident that ketosis (the body's natural process of converting fat to energy) will help me.

I hope something in this helps!

I'm feeling for you @Justmehere!

 

[HealingInProcess]

I'm going through similar issue/feelings

. My self esteem has taken a sizable dint. I lost my appetite, completely, over it, and have decided to allow my body to go into ketosis to relieve the stress of it all, so I stopped eating (this latest crisis event happened yesterday).

I'm overweight anyway and have done my research, I will fast safely and stop when I need to.

Being in ketosis is said to help with mood regulation. You can acheive it without fasting with Keto products and/or a keto diet which is low in carbs.

Interestingly, early treatment for PTSD was to put people into ketosis, it is better for your brain to be fed with ketones, than to be fed with glucose, if you have a brain injury, and PTSD is exactly that. Good results are being acheived with epilepsy too.

So anyway, I relate, and am comforted, in a "I-need-peers-to-destigmatize-my-own-sense-of-self kind of way.

It's exactly what I've been going through, and I was really angry. I remembered to add mindful compassion to the situation and I analysed it and realized that the people I'm going through this with dont have very good social skills, either, in fact, worse than mine. I am Aspie as well as c-ptsd so that is something I've struggled with all my life. So, I feel some compassion for myself and the other people. I'm still a bit pissed and hurt by them, and don't want any more situations where I have to go through the humiliation, so intensely, coz, I've had so much humiliation and, I'm conscious that it's like a toxic overload for me now.

I'm going to avoid those people who are so insensitive and unaware and that trample all over my feelings that lead to the humiliation and I think that is what the anger towards them is about. It's like an emotional/social allegy that I've developed and the anger is the self preservation and self protection kicking in.

The self esteem is what needs attending to now. Something I've had to, consciously, work and work and work on.

At this stage compassion for self is the best remedy for the self esteem damage. And, the radical dietary move, on my part, coz I need this gift of weight loss and emotional regulation and I'm confident that ketosis (the body's natural process of converting fat to energy) will help me.

I hope something in this helps!

I'm feeling for you @Justmehere!

I have attest that I have found fasting to be helpful for mood.

 

[Justmehere]

Right now, I’m angry almost 24-7. I’m either stuffing it or hiding from everyone. Is very connected to feeling ashamed and humiliated 24-7.

Can’t seem to get a handle on it,

 

[blackemerald1]

Hey @Justmehere it must be the moon or something. I've had a really challenging week and really could have done my block at a few people who actually did deserve it.

Instead, because I wasn't coming from a place of clarity in my own mind I've elected to hide away from them. But they know they have pushed me too far.

So, I've dragged out a lot of coping things starting with exercise, getting jobs done, my writing journal and pushing myself through. It is very painful but I don't know any other way.

Whilst you are hiding away from the world what are you doing?