Relationship PTSD first time triggered

[Freida]

uestion, do you tend to lose a sense of time when going through this? I

Yep. I lose the entire month of January every year

e. I know I am horrible and

Nope. You are a caring person looking for answers. That doesn't make you horrible. It makes you human

I didn't get to ask if he wants to still have me check in or just leave him alone so I'm clueless

for me? The answer to this question can change day by day or even hour by hour. I'll even get mad at my supporters for not checking in on me hours after telling them to leave me alone and then getting pissed when they do. It's like any rational thinking ability just goes out the window. I know that may not help...but hopefully reassures you that it's not you

 

[Songbirdhero]

for me? The answer to this question can change day by day or even hour by hour. I'll even get mad at my supporters for not checking in on me hours after telling them to leave me alone and then getting pissed when they do. It's like any rational thinking ability just goes out the window. I know that may not help...but hopefully reassures you that it's not you

Ah maybe that's one of the reasons he hasn't responded when I ask flat out. He just doesn't know right now, too much going on inside his mind he's dealing with. I always debate and write and rewrite a message before I send it for fear of saying the wrong thing and pushing him away further.

 

[Songbirdhero]

And actually I've been thinking about it and as much as I miss talking to him right now, I'm really proud of him for knowing he has things he needs to deal with and improve for his own health and well being. I think it takes a lot of courage to recognize and admit you need to work on your issues and that you even have issues to begin with. I just wish those things didn't involve isolating himself from me but I get it, I'm a distraction.

 

[LuckiLee]

He may be hospitalized again for all you know. He hasn't responded so I'd leave him be.

 

[Songbirdhero]

He may be hospitalized again for all you know. He hasn't responded so I'd leave him be.

I didn't even consider that but it's a possibility too. ?

 

[EmpoweredGirl]

He may be hospitalized again for all you know. He hasn't responded so I'd leave him be.

I second this space may be a good idea.

 

[Songbirdhero]

I second this space may be a good idea.

I'm not reaching out anymore at this time and giving him his space. I honestly didn't even consider the hospital, I really hope that's not the case but I guess its possible.

 

[LuckiLee]

I hope it is the case, if that's what he needs at this time.

If I'm not mistaken he told you he needed space to work on himself, right? Why don't you believe that?

 

[Songbirdhero]

I hope it is the case, if that's what he needs at this time.

If I'm not mistaken he told you he needed space to work on himself, right? Why don't you believe that?

I do believe it. But I've never been through this and I'm still learning. It's why I came to this group so I can get advice. I'm not furiously texting and calling him. And after a few weeks I would hope to just hear how he is doing, that's all. I'm not asking to have a 3 hour conversation, but alas I'm refraining. He can reach out when he's ready.
And I said I hope he's not in the hospital bc that means he's worse again and I am hoping he's working on things and feeling better each day, not worse.

On the supporter side of things, it's completely against human nature (especially as a female) to sit back and not want to try and help someone you care about get better. So I'm glad I read up on everything that pertains to PTSD and am getting advice here. Its completely different than what I thought.

 

[LuckiLee]

PTSD, trauma, symptoms, coping mechanisms, nightmares, anxiety, depression, rage, self loathing etc. etc. are all very personal and private issues sufferers are dealing with. They aren't going to share these things with just anyone. It can take years to gain trust like that.

I know you want to help him. And the way to do that right now is to give space.

 

[Songbirdhero]

PTSD, trauma, symptoms, coping mechanisms, nightmares, anxiety, depression, rage, self loathing etc. etc. are all very personal and private issues sufferers are dealing with. They aren't going to share these things with just anyone. It can take years to gain trust like that.

I know you want to help him. And the way to do that right now is to give space.

I understand and appreciate you taking the time to explain some of this to me. I'm giving him space, I promise.

 

[LuckiLee]

(((HUGS)))