Relationship The dreaded “I can’t be in a relationship right now” text

[Respectfully1979]

It most definitely is not about us. Still it is extremely hard to let go of a dream, when all the mutual feelings are there.
I have a Tinder date tomorrow ? Part of me wants to run away screaming....I am not ready for this? The other part wants to meet this guy. Just from texting, he seems really nice and in touch with himself...which is a welcome change from being with somebody with PTSD who feels numb a lot of the time. I have to be really careful....figure out if I am ready to pour energy into a new man...if I am just trying to distract myself in order not to think about my ex. I have to take it slooooow! I knew my ex four years as friends before we got together, so it felt completely natural....meeting a complete stranger for a date...minor panick attack ?

Good luck!!! ??????

 

[candor]

@Butterfly: Way to go. I am so happy for you.
@Respectfully1979 : "reframing my story to be a positive one of personal growth " This is the way to do it. See life as for you and not against you. Even when it is a domino effect of bad things happening to me, I ask myself what is the good that can come out of this? I keep repeating the "Life is for me and not against me" mantra which really helps. Relationships are hard work when we get caught up in the never-ending ego game of power control. We want things to go our way. Dissappointments are proportional to our level of expectations. We learn with time that it is ok to take care of our needs and it is sometimes simpler if we become super independent. Find your voice and let people know what makes you happy... either they will give or they won't.

 

[Respectfully1979]

@Butterfly: Way to go. I am so happy for you.
@Respectfully1979 : "reframing my story to be a positive one of personal growth " This is the way to do it. See life as for you and not against you. Even when it is a domino effect of bad things happening to me, I ask myself what is the good that can come out of this? I keep repeating the "Life is for me and not against me" mantra which really helps. Relationships are hard work when we get caught up in the never-ending ego game of power control. We want things to go our way. Dissappointments are proportional to our level of expectations. We learn with time that it is ok to take care of our needs and it is sometimes simpler if we become super independent. Find your voice and let people know what makes you happy... either they will give or they won't.

Perfectly said!! Thank you so much @candor xx

 

[Butterfly64]

Good luck!!! ??????

Thank you?