Aw I'm sorry @Dailyshifts :( .
I think regret isn't an emotion, but rather a description of emotions, together (I didn't know til today, either), i.e. a descriptor. For example, (a combination of) searing grief, sadness, shame-? Etc.
I believe it doesn't have to even be a trauma you need to refer back to- just find the emotions (not descriptor) and ask when you recall feeling that in childhood.
Do you think you're trying to avoid what your dad felt? You said it's the 'worst'? How did you feel when you were on the receiving end of his actions when ill? Did you know he was ill?
How do you feel if you leave these other people out? Their actions were wrong, but your emotions come from within you, (natural) response or not. Our responses always say more about us than what others do to us (that's not a condemnation, just a reference point we can work off of).
Must head off, not avoiding, best wishes.
I think regret isn't an emotion, but rather a description of emotions, together (I didn't know til today, either), i.e. a descriptor. For example, (a combination of) searing grief, sadness, shame-? Etc.
I believe it doesn't have to even be a trauma you need to refer back to- just find the emotions (not descriptor) and ask when you recall feeling that in childhood.
Do you think you're trying to avoid what your dad felt? You said it's the 'worst'? How did you feel when you were on the receiving end of his actions when ill? Did you know he was ill?
How do you feel if you leave these other people out? Their actions were wrong, but your emotions come from within you, (natural) response or not. Our responses always say more about us than what others do to us (that's not a condemnation, just a reference point we can work off of).
Must head off, not avoiding, best wishes.