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I've been mulling this over and not sure how I feel about it.
If you have reported your trauma to the police. How do you feel about it now?
If you decided not to, how do you feel about it now?
With me: I never ever thought I would report (nothing to report: all my fault obviously!). But now, I'm thinking about it. I don't at all expect (or even want? I don't know) an outcome. Nothing like a prosection and conviction (I think. But maybe my thinking about this would change too?).
But, I might get some validation by just reporting it? Just having what happened be entered into their police system. It being recorded that I said this happened to me. And then case closed? I might be just happy to be a statistic on their computer?
There are three 'events' by three different people that I'm thinking about. One of them, I have no idea who he was, and it was 27 years ago, so nothing will come of that. (There is no time limit in the UK to report sexual crimes).
The second one, I know his name and that is it. No other contact details. And this event was 30 years ago.
And then the third: he is easily located as he is all over the internet. But he now lives overseas. And no other evidence but my disassociated memory, which I doubt would be likely to secure a conviction.
Am i misguided in thinking it might help with a sense of validation? Perhaps I need to work more internally to give me that sense of validation rather than getting it from reporting to the police?
I haven't spoken about it with my T yet, so think I will.
But wondered if any of you felt able to share your experiences and thoughts on this subject?
If you have reported your trauma to the police. How do you feel about it now?
If you decided not to, how do you feel about it now?
With me: I never ever thought I would report (nothing to report: all my fault obviously!). But now, I'm thinking about it. I don't at all expect (or even want? I don't know) an outcome. Nothing like a prosection and conviction (I think. But maybe my thinking about this would change too?).
But, I might get some validation by just reporting it? Just having what happened be entered into their police system. It being recorded that I said this happened to me. And then case closed? I might be just happy to be a statistic on their computer?
There are three 'events' by three different people that I'm thinking about. One of them, I have no idea who he was, and it was 27 years ago, so nothing will come of that. (There is no time limit in the UK to report sexual crimes).
The second one, I know his name and that is it. No other contact details. And this event was 30 years ago.
And then the third: he is easily located as he is all over the internet. But he now lives overseas. And no other evidence but my disassociated memory, which I doubt would be likely to secure a conviction.
Am i misguided in thinking it might help with a sense of validation? Perhaps I need to work more internally to give me that sense of validation rather than getting it from reporting to the police?
I haven't spoken about it with my T yet, so think I will.
But wondered if any of you felt able to share your experiences and thoughts on this subject?