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Hello, my brother and his wife are coming to visit from the other side of the country. They mainly want to visit our Mom who is assisted living near me. I do not want them to come to my house or visit with me in my house. I don't want to spend any time with them, but I probably will not be able to avoid that. It was triggering for me to be around my brother and his wife when I went to visit them a year ago.
My son and daughter-in-law live with me. We've all been through trauma, have PTSD, and are doing therapy to work to heal. Our house is our safe place. No one comes to our house, ever. None of us want them there.
How do I tell my brother that? I don't want to disclose to him or my Mom that I'm in therapy or have "issues" because I don't want to deal with their judgement on it. It will be difficult for them to just visit at Mom's assisted living place for long periods of time. There's only so much time they can spend in a hotel or restaurant. I realize that's not supposed to be my concern or worry, but this is difficult for me, and a lot of my trauma revolves around pleasing others and making sure everything is the way it's supposed to be.
My son and daughter-in-law live with me. We've all been through trauma, have PTSD, and are doing therapy to work to heal. Our house is our safe place. No one comes to our house, ever. None of us want them there.
How do I tell my brother that? I don't want to disclose to him or my Mom that I'm in therapy or have "issues" because I don't want to deal with their judgement on it. It will be difficult for them to just visit at Mom's assisted living place for long periods of time. There's only so much time they can spend in a hotel or restaurant. I realize that's not supposed to be my concern or worry, but this is difficult for me, and a lot of my trauma revolves around pleasing others and making sure everything is the way it's supposed to be.