Movingforward10
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I'm thinking of telling my sisters what happened to me. I'm no where near telling my parents. So I would be asking my sisters to not tell anyone.
I'm not sure my reasons for telling them.
Initially it was to get them to understand why I'm not in as much contact with my parents as I used to be. (This is making my parents be stressed and pulling one of my sisters into the 'drama' that has been created).
But now I think I might just be moving towards: this is me and this is what happened to me.
But T said maybe I want to tell them to reenact something. Which could be true.
I think I might be motivated to tell them because I want their compassion and platitudes. Which I'm not sure is the right reason for telling.
I also know if I tell them and they don't respond the way I want them to (i.e. keeping my confidence and understanding what I have experienced), then it's going to be a tough old time. And maybe right now isn't the right time to deal with that. Am I testing them unfairly by this wish to tell them?
But equally, I kind of want to take my space and have this acknowledged. But maybe I need to work more in my internal acknowledgement rather than looking for that from my sisters?
Have you had similar thoughts/feelings and how did you resolve it?
I'm not sure my reasons for telling them.
Initially it was to get them to understand why I'm not in as much contact with my parents as I used to be. (This is making my parents be stressed and pulling one of my sisters into the 'drama' that has been created).
But now I think I might just be moving towards: this is me and this is what happened to me.
But T said maybe I want to tell them to reenact something. Which could be true.
I think I might be motivated to tell them because I want their compassion and platitudes. Which I'm not sure is the right reason for telling.
I also know if I tell them and they don't respond the way I want them to (i.e. keeping my confidence and understanding what I have experienced), then it's going to be a tough old time. And maybe right now isn't the right time to deal with that. Am I testing them unfairly by this wish to tell them?
But equally, I kind of want to take my space and have this acknowledged. But maybe I need to work more in my internal acknowledgement rather than looking for that from my sisters?
Have you had similar thoughts/feelings and how did you resolve it?