I started dating a wonderful man 2 yrs.ago. He is a veteran and told me he had PTSD and was medicated and the past 2 yrs have been great. 4 months ago he told me he stopped taking his meds because he was done with pharmaceuticals. He also has a couple of injuries. Communication between us was amazing and our connection was uncanny.
When I last saw him ( we live 3 hrs apart) i knew he was "off"..scattered all over the place. Said he didnt want me to move in and he needed time apart. I had not moved in just had clothes that I kept at his place for when I visited.
I took my belongings and explained to him that since he needed a "few weeks" alone that it was a good time for me to go through my stuff and weed out. He went with a friend out of town to help out. I saw him 4 days later and could tell he seemed to be himself and told me he went back on his meds. We had 3 great days together. He went back to his home and 2 days later told me that he was having a hard time because I took my personal belongings and it was a trigger. He said he was "jumpy" and frustrated with everything and didnt want me to come to see him and that he again needed time to figure things out. That was August and the last time we spoke. He texted 3 weeks later and ended our relationship..no reason..just didnt want to be in relationship.
Its been 4 months of his ghosting me
I have been so confused and mourning this relationship. I have reached out several times and met with silence. I joined this forum to gleen insight. I realize I set off a trigger in him. He definitely is a protector. He is such a kind and compassionate man and I truly am at a loss. I thought we had a future. We never argued but were always able to talk through issues.
I am thankful for this forum and am educating myself because I deeply love this man but dont feel I can trust my heart with him as this ghosting has been pure hell.
Thanks for " listening:
When I last saw him ( we live 3 hrs apart) i knew he was "off"..scattered all over the place. Said he didnt want me to move in and he needed time apart. I had not moved in just had clothes that I kept at his place for when I visited.
I took my belongings and explained to him that since he needed a "few weeks" alone that it was a good time for me to go through my stuff and weed out. He went with a friend out of town to help out. I saw him 4 days later and could tell he seemed to be himself and told me he went back on his meds. We had 3 great days together. He went back to his home and 2 days later told me that he was having a hard time because I took my personal belongings and it was a trigger. He said he was "jumpy" and frustrated with everything and didnt want me to come to see him and that he again needed time to figure things out. That was August and the last time we spoke. He texted 3 weeks later and ended our relationship..no reason..just didnt want to be in relationship.
Its been 4 months of his ghosting me
I have been so confused and mourning this relationship. I have reached out several times and met with silence. I joined this forum to gleen insight. I realize I set off a trigger in him. He definitely is a protector. He is such a kind and compassionate man and I truly am at a loss. I thought we had a future. We never argued but were always able to talk through issues.
I am thankful for this forum and am educating myself because I deeply love this man but dont feel I can trust my heart with him as this ghosting has been pure hell.
Thanks for " listening: