Questioning T's experience

[beaneeboo]

Here is a good place to park stuff. Or in your own private journal. Then it’s ready when you go into session.

I'm beginning to see this probably is the best place to park things... although it's certainly not 100% private! But there are very supportive people here. This is a lovely community. Can't really do the whole private journal thing on paper. I don't trust myself not keep it safe away from the eyes of my son.

I agree. I email my T sometimes twice a week. It’s a this is what I’ve got, can’t say, don’t want a response, let’s chat in session email. Sometimes he reads it before and sometimes during. He specifically told me that the opposite of what @Friday said is true. Anything that can be court ordered would have to be fairly large court order and would include his notes and the emails but that would be rare and since he does not print the email and add it to his notes they wouldn’t be there.

I do agree that the electronic stuff is certainly crackable and it’s a risk but I can’t imagine anyone is cracking it to find stuff about me. Kind of like yes, Alexa is listening but who the hell wants to hear what I’m saying bad enough to crack it.

@beaneeboo. I used to bring journals into session with my old T. Most are willing to read in session. If you prefer email then write it and keep it in your drafts box to add to all week and then when you get there email it so he can read and delete, I mean ask of course but just another option to consider. My T knows I send it expecting no response. We even had a discussion that his “see you Tuesday” in response was too much for me. My advice write down all your concerns and then ask him how to address similar things going forward.

I thanks charbella, I think my T would be willing to discuss in session reading from whatever I bring in... can't email as I think he's made it clear he's not comfortable with that in any circumstance... I don't really want to write in a paper journal (reasons in my above responseto olivejewel) ... think like olivejewel said here is probably the only place i can...

My difficulty with all of this is actually I think bringing stuff in writing would help not to have to initiate what's hard to talk about... but then once he's read it there would still have to be some sort of discussion about it face to face ( yes that's the aim of therapy!) ...

I'm beginning to see I'm trying to get out of the whole talking about difficult stuff thing

 

[Movingforward10]

Yeah. Saying the actual words somehow makes it real.

 

[somerandomguy]

Can you provide a source for this? I have been researching it and am finding that the opposite is true.

It depends entirely on the country you're living in. What @Friday said is absolutely true in the USA. My understanding is that in the EU, privacy rights are much stronger. (I have no idea about the UK since they aren't part of Europe anymore.)

 

[Movingforward10]

It depends entirely on the country you're living in. What @Friday said is absolutely true in the USA. My understanding is that in the EU, privacy rights are much stronger. (I have no idea about the UK since they aren't part of Europe anymore.)

Always get an ‘ouch’ when it’s highlighted that we’re not in the EU anymore.

but it’s different over here. paying private for therapy, don’t think anyone can demand to see that communication? Though I could consent to it being released. The EU laws are still in the UK, until the end of this year. So client confidentiality is confirmed under EU human rights. I think??

 

[Rose White]

although it's certainly not 100% private!

Did you see that you can have a private diary on the site which no one can read or comment on? (Not sure if they are moderated for suicide/crisis talk though?)

there would still have to be some sort of discussion about it face to face (

Kind of yes, kind of no. Your goal is for T to know about stuff that you struggle to speak out loud about, right? You could have him read it and then not actually talk about it. I have done that before with my T. I wanted her to know but I wasn’t ready to talk about it. She always respected my desire to talk or not because she knew that pushing me would have the opposite effect of helping me get it out.

 

[beaneeboo]

Always get an ‘ouch’ when it’s highlighted that we’re not in the EU anymore.

but it’s different over here. paying private for therapy, don’t think anyone can demand to see that communication? Though I could consent to it being released. The EU laws are still in the UK, until the end of this year. So client confidentiality is confirmed under EU human rights. I think??

Yes I feel that ouch too (I'm in the UK too)

I didn't know about the EU laws to the end of the year. I won't how things will change after then.

I'm not sure of the circumstances a T would have to share their notes. Perhaps in a court of law if the client takes them to court?

It's something I know very little about

Did you see that you can have a private diary on the site which no one can read or comment on? (Not sure if they are moderated for suicide/crisis talk though?)

Nope I hadn't understood this . This is good!

Ok so essentially I can have 2 diaries here? 1 others can read. Another others can access?

 

[whiteraven]

What @Friday said is absolutely true in the USA.

Ok, but can someone provide a source? I have like 12 legal sources that say the opposite. I'd love to find the original and true source.

 

[beaneeboo]

Kind of yes, kind of no. Your goal is for T to know about stuff that you struggle to speak out loud about, right? You could have him read it and then not actually talk about it. I have done that before with my T. I wanted her to know but I wasn’t ready to talk about it. She always respected my desire to talk or not because she knew that pushing me would have the opposite effect of helping me get it out.

Also really helpful. I haven't really imagined how this can all work. I like this idea. Does it not feel a bit strange having them read it out whilst you sit there? Doesn't it feel awkward?

 

[whiteraven]

Does it not feel a bit strange having them read it out whilst you sit there? Doesn't it feel awkward?

Why do you want to avoid the strange or awkward feeling?

The feelings will pass!

 

[Sideways]

Ok so essentially I can have 2 diaries here? 1 others can read. Another others can access?

Three in total.
1 in Trauma Diaries: anyone can search, read and comment.
1 in Trauma Diaries(Members): only members can see these or comment.
1 in Trauma Diaries(Private): only Admin can access these.

 

[Sideways]

Ok, but can someone provide a source? I have like 12 legal sources that say the opposite. I'd love to find the original and true source.

This is an international forum. Laws will vary (widely) from one jurisdiction to the next. Don’t take legal advice from anonymous sources online - speak to your therapist directly, or a lawyer in your jurisdiction.

Lets end that thread highjack now and get back to the OP’s situation:)

 

[beaneeboo]

Three in total.
1 in Trauma Diaries: anyone can search, read and comment.
1 in Trauma Diaries(Members): only members can see these or comment.
1 in Trauma Diaries(Private): only Admin can access these.

Thanks this is good to know. I had seen this option before but I'd assumed I wouldn't be able to use it because I'm new. Didn't think I'd qualify