Our relationship of a year had ended after my girlfriend told me that she had a resurgence of her past sa trauma. She didn't blame me or hold me responsible. As she put it she felt unheard some times. I was very confused because we had always been very open and communicated especially during sex. I would always try to do my best to do what we had talked about.
She was also feeling pressured that I was moving closer to the same city that she had just moved to as well. We first talked it about moving in together but decided to get our own houses. I tried to comfort her by telling her I needed to move due to my lease ending and I was ready for some place new. Also the city that we moved to had been on my list for a while to possibly move to.
This all happened during the time year that her last toxic relationship had ended which was a little year before we had reconnected. I found this out later that she had only be out of the abusive relationship for a few months before we started dating.
The only time I really confronted her was after she stopped communicating with me. We finally met and she told me thier was a problem but didn't want to talk about it. So I gave it time and we had another date night 3 days later and she was still very cold and distant. At the end I confronted her on what was going on and was very confused on our relationship as she didn't want to be intimate or even talk. We both went to our separate homes after the hard talk. She texted me the next day saying she had felt her boundaries had been pushed by me asking what was going on. Then we spent the next month or so getting more and more distant.
I have definitely been blaming myself and going as far to think that my actions somehow had become toxic to her. Which to my best knowledge I never did I was always very caring and supportive. Was I in the wrong? Could I have done better? It's been tareing me apart.
She was also feeling pressured that I was moving closer to the same city that she had just moved to as well. We first talked it about moving in together but decided to get our own houses. I tried to comfort her by telling her I needed to move due to my lease ending and I was ready for some place new. Also the city that we moved to had been on my list for a while to possibly move to.
This all happened during the time year that her last toxic relationship had ended which was a little year before we had reconnected. I found this out later that she had only be out of the abusive relationship for a few months before we started dating.
The only time I really confronted her was after she stopped communicating with me. We finally met and she told me thier was a problem but didn't want to talk about it. So I gave it time and we had another date night 3 days later and she was still very cold and distant. At the end I confronted her on what was going on and was very confused on our relationship as she didn't want to be intimate or even talk. We both went to our separate homes after the hard talk. She texted me the next day saying she had felt her boundaries had been pushed by me asking what was going on. Then we spent the next month or so getting more and more distant.
I have definitely been blaming myself and going as far to think that my actions somehow had become toxic to her. Which to my best knowledge I never did I was always very caring and supportive. Was I in the wrong? Could I have done better? It's been tareing me apart.