100 Things You Like About Yourself

[freakofnurture]

Some time ago I made a little box for my husband with 100 little cards in it, and on every card I wrote one thing that I love about him. It was very easy for me to make a list of items to put on these cards. During my first 'sitting' I wrote down 58 items (I just wrote, one after the other, no pauses), during the next I wrote the missing 42, and after that I could have written down another 50 or even 100 things, no problem.

My husband of course suspected that I wanted him to do the same for me *rolls eyes* and then said that he'd rather I make a box for myself. I hate the idea, but he's right.

Of course I don't love anything about me. But I could actually come up with some things I like about myself. I wrote them down in my Big Black Book of Bullsh*t which I use to work on my Complex Trauma.

And then I thought, why should I be the only one having to agonise about thinking positive things about themself? That's how evil I am.

The idea is that everybody who wants to participate in this thread starts their own counted list of things they like about themselfs (or, if like is too strong a word still: things they don't absolutely dislike about themselfs / things they can kind of stand about themselfs / things about themselfs that they hate a little less than everything else / ...).

Whenever you find another item for your list, put it in a new post with a number, voilà. If you want to, you can also explain why you like this particular thing; you know, brag a bit :D

The first person to complete their list wins a pretty pony or a robot with lasers. I will draw them. A pony with lasers is also possible. Or a pretty robot.

100 Things I Like About Myself
01. My hair (it's shiny and getting darker)
02. The colour of my eyes (almost black)
03. My lashes (long)
04. That I'm so flexible (splits)
05. That I don't partake in in-group sh*t that conflicts with my personal taste or ethics.
06. That I am attracted to all things 'different' and 'strange', instead of scared of them.
07. My intelligence - at least when I believe that I posess some.
08. That my English is rather fluent (I reached this point without teachers and through intrinsic motivation alone)
09. That I can express myself so well in different media (words, pictures, movement)
10. That I am slowly learning to say No in an assertive, decisive way.
11. That I have started to work on my issues again.

And that's how far I got in a month or so.

 

[Cheshire]

This is a fabulous idea!

But if I win, can I have a pretty robot pony with lasers? Or is that asking too much?

 

[freakofnurture]

Insatiable, aren't we? :D But that's okay. You'll get a pretty robot pony with lasers. I can give it a jetpack, too, and put glitter on its hooves.

 

[Cheshire]

:D

It's the glitter that was the clincher. Here we go!

100 Things I Like About Myself:

01. My eyes.
02. My cooking.
03. My ability to be genuinely open-minded and consider all perspectives.
04. My voice - purely ego-based, I like it because other people seem to like it :cool:
05. My writing style.
06. The gap between my two top front teeth. I don't know why.
07. My sense of humour. I may be the only person who does, though :D

That's all I have for now. Seroquel is kickin' in with a bang and my eyes won't stay open :sleep:

 

[Serene]

This is a great idea! One hundred is a pretty big number. How lucky you are, Freak, to have a husband who has so many wonderful qualities. Does he have a brother? :whistling:

100 Things I like About Myself

1. I have the courage to take an honest look at myself.
2. I have grown tremendously since I first began working on my abuse issues.
3. I have helped many people along the way in my healing journey.
4. I have an open mind about many things.
5. I am compassionate.
6. I am honest.
7. I am loyal.
8. I am generous.
9. I am genuine.
10. I have a contagious laugh.
11. I have a good sense of humor.
12. I have a way of making people feel comfortable.
13. I have musical talent.
14. I have artistic talent.
15. I am good with children.
16. I care about the earth.
17. I see all of humanity as one family.
18. I take better care of myself than I ever have before.
19. I reach out to others.
20. I am good with house plants.
21. I keep a clean house.
22. I have nice eyes.
23. I don't dye my gray hair any more.
24. I don't wear make up any more.
25. I can make pretty ear rings.
26. I can play piano, flute and guitar.
27. I can sooth people with my singing voice.
28. I know how to read music.
29. I compose music.
30. I am a good kisser (or so I am told).
31. I am learning to let my children live their own lives.
32. I apologize when I am wrong...or should I say when I am aware I am wrong.
33. I am a loving grandmother.
34. I take good care of my cat.
35. I have good posture.
36. I try to limit my sweets and keep my weight down...I try.
37. I do my best to accept my sons' choices in girlfriends even when I don't really like them.
38. I am kind to my neighbors.
39. I recycle.
40. I complain less than I used to.
41. I smile at people in the grocery store.
42. I tip well.
43. I live within my means.
44. I pay off my credit card every month.
45. I pay my bills on time.
46. I am learning to ask for help when I need it.
47. I find pleasure in simple things...birds, trees, clouds, rain, flowers...
48. I am bisexual. I am not limited by anatomy.
49. I am outgoing and very comfortable with most strangers.
50. I chew with my mouth closed.
51. I floss regularly.
52. I get rid of stuff when I don't need it any more.
53. I am an active member of Al Anon.
54. I work the 12 steps in my daily life.
55. I can touch the floor with the palms of my hands without bending my knees.
56. I try to limit my use of electricity, water and gasoline.

Whew! That's all for now. I'll have to keep thinking about this as I go through my day. I'll have to admit...I feel better than I did before I made this list. This is a great exercise.

 

[The Albatross]

Holy smokes... great thread! I got to think about this. It is going to be tough. Serene you did really well!

 

[freakofnurture]

Whee, Cheshire and Serene :)
Reading your items was thought provoking. There are some things that I can/do/..., too, but when I think about them, I don't feel that I like them about myself. I like them about other people and I know I should see them as good things in myself, but somehow I'm not yet able to like myself for those reasons. It's strange.

EDIT: Should I mention that after the first list is complete, I will think of a reward for the person to finish next? Maybe a cute little clown fishie or a shark with a chainsaw attached to its head.
Or a cute little clown fishie with bad teeth and a chainsaw attached to its head, incase Cheshire finishes second :D

 

[Serene]

Thanks.
57. I am frugal.
58. I give good back massages.
59. I can crochet.
60. I make my own laundry detergent.

 

[Serene]

I'm not yet able to like myself for those reasons.

List the things about yourself that you like in other people and I will like them about you for you. That was a real tongue twister!

 

[The Albatross]

100 Things I Like About Myself*

*In no particular order

1. My ears
2. My 4 octave voice and perfect tone
3. My lips
4. My “get ‘er done” attitude
5. My fishing ability.
6. My ability to rescue and provide care for animals.
7. My accent
8. My grin.
9. My helpful basic attitude.
10. My ability to problem solve.
11. My willingness to get or ask for help when I need it.
12. My drive to do the right thing, even when it is uncomfortable or it hurts.
13. My habit of researching when I’m facing a new problem.
14. My hair, I really like my hair.
15. My eyes (they’re brown but they turn green sometimes)
16. My thriftiness
17. My willingness to try new things and foods.
18. My rough and ready camping style
19. My appreciation for nature
20. My feet and toes
21. My compassion
22. My sense of ethics and moral compass
23. My love of art and music
24. My ability to persevere
25. My ability to do and stay on a budget
26. My laugh
27. My home decorating style… (anything I like and comfortable)
28. My ability to react quickly in an emergency
29. My 7th generation American, and native American heritage.
30. My faith
31. My movie picks (strange and unusual indies usually)
32. My tenacity
33. My spirit
34. My lack of fashion sense (I dress for me without embarrassment)
35. My low maintenance demeanor.
36. My intuitive radar
37. My skin
38. My drive for health
39. My drive for self improvement
40. My willingness to learn how to be a loving and safe partner.
41. My ability to get past the pain and find a blessing
42. My resilience
43. My candor
44. My hugs (they are really great hugs)
45. My breasts (can I say that?)
46. My work ethic (when I’m working)
47. My easy way with the people I take care of.
48. My openness with the families I am involved with.
49. My ability to be a great student.
50. My tendency to dare to do things I’m not wholely comfortable with and to grow.
51. My preference for hitting problems head on with all I’ve got instead of avoiding them.
52. My backgammon and Ace Duce skill
53. I’m a great hearts and spades player.
54. My loyalty
55. My devotion to my husband and family.
56. My ability to compromise and not go into win/lose power plays
57. Being a rational thinker with idealistic tendencies.
58. Being helpful to my community as a volunteer.
59. Being a person who lives a life based on spiritual principles.
60. Being able to relate to a lot of people and experiences.
61. Being able to make a difference in peoples health and end of life.
62. Being a “good servant” and serving with humility the people under my care.
63. Being able to set boundaries and understanding that people will test them.
64. Being a bit funky with a whole lot of soul.
65. Being a communicator.
66. Being able to apologize when I err and mean it
67. Being able to restrain my anger and temper my words
68. My habit of doing kind things for absolutely no reason sometimes anonymously
69. My ability to appreciate silence
70. My appreciation for the experiences and sharing from others
71. My cooking (I’m a messy but great cook)
72. My competitive nature and good sportsmanship
73. My ease with children and the elderly
74. My playful nature when I’m teaching swim lessons
75. I am a good teacher.
76. I am a gentle soul.
77. I am a tom boy and don’t mind sweat, grime, or dirt.
78. I am more focused on the things I do that how I “look”
79. I am able to appreciate good jokes and teasing with good humor
80. I am an outdoorswoman
81. I look tough, but I’m soft on the inside.

 

[The Albatross]

82. I’m a great snuggler.
83. My credit score is terrific.
84. I color in the lines and don’t run with scissors.
85. I love water fights.
86. I am a conscientious care taker when somebody’s sick or injured.
87. I am a good companion.
88. I am a devoted wife.
89. I don’t tell secrets.
90. I do my best to keep my word if I give it.
91. I am a singer of silly songs and a dancer of silly dances.
92. I enjoy sunrises with cappuccino and kite flying with a friend.
93. I am pretty darned brave.
94. I am a good and loyal friend.
95. I am excellent moral support and will be there when somebody needs it.
96. People are more important than my job or possessions.
97. I’d rather go for a long drive than shopping.
98. I don’t get sea sick.
99. I can use a sword, cane, broad sword and fighting fan.
100. I love to wear costumes (Halloween, Mardi Gras, whatever, whenever, wherever)

That was hard... but I'm so glad I didn't choke. I was in a good place today. Thank you very much.

 

[The Albatross]

P.S. Can we all share the prize? I will gladly share and look forward to your most excellent creation.

I have to say I am impressed as h*ll that someone makes their own laundry detergent!