Internet Dating For Ptsd Dummies

[ms spock]

I have got to read this whole thread again from the beginning.
ms spock

 

[Gloria]

Christmas has been awful in the past but there are some hilarious threads on here and if I get lonely and depressed, I will re-read some of the threads. Some of them made me bust my sides laughing!!

 

[Gloria]

I don't know. I just want hugs and cuddles. I want someone to snuggle up with.

Yes I will put on "I am tragically and incredibly lame." T-Shirt.

Okay what would be the etiquette for situation like this? Ask him for a date? Not ask him for a date?
Unfortunately only 52% of me is joking.

ms spock

Ms. Spock,
Okay, I know pick up lines... and ways to get things rolling... Next time you see him tell him that you have seen him so often that you feel like you are old friends and ask him if he would like to go out for a cup of coffee if you two can arrange it. I've met men in recovery groups who have issues just like me but sometimes your issues can trigger the other's issues. Be light and friendly and be aware that he could have serious issues. I tried dating men in AA and can't because even if they have been sober for 20 years, I still see my father's rage and personality. The men I met in ACOA never had a horrific childhood like me and I get very annoyed to hear them talk about how they have PTSD. You don't get PTSD because you were listening to the radio and your father changed the channel. Please!!!

Go for Ms. Spock. and keep us all updated. I love hearing other people's adventures and when we take them as they are - just adventures and experiments with the opposite sex, we don't take disappointment and rejections so seriously. It's just Dating 101. Sometimes you get an A and sometimes you get an F but at least you're taking the course!!

Hugs!
Gloria

 

[ms spock]

Oh Gloria,

You are so kind. Thank you for being so generous. I would like to but I won't.

I had my customary 2 minutes with him today and that will be fine until next week. I don't even
know his name or anything.

Obviously I need to get out more.

I have only told one of my friends about my crush on this guy (or the hot guy as I call him).
My friend is sworn to secrecy. He wanted to know if I knew hot guy's name. I said "Of course not - we haven't got that far yet."

It is one of my most successful relationships - because it is only happening in my mind. :D
And it is going so well I don't want to risk spoiling it by bring in some actual consensus reality. ;)

Next time you see him tell him that you have seen him so often that you feel like you are old friends and ask him if he would like to go out for a cup of coffee if you two can arrange it.

That is an awesome line though. :D

I don't know if it would really be okay to try and pick some one up just after they have seen their psychiatrist.

Anyway thank you for being so kind.
ms spock

 

[Gloria]

Ms Spock,

You gave me a hearty belly laugh this morning!!! I remember that they used to say at 12 step meetings - "the worst and the best things that ever happened to me only happened in my mind!" Ain't it the truth???? 99% of the stuff you worry about is in your mind and never happens and the 1% that does happeu n you couldn't have done anything about!!

The best and happiest times I ever had was when I imaginined something wonderful was going to happen to me.

Isn't it great to just spend time in your brain? Sometimes I wish I was just a little more crazy so I could be like some people in mental hospitals who are totally happy and clueless as to what is going on in their real life.

But instead, we fight for our sanity and it's isn't the most fun thing to do!!!

I still say talk to him. You are giving this hottie too much space in your brain!! I met a guy just a month ago and I thought he was so hot and he was 12 years younger than me but didn't know how old I am. God! I was so excited and so nervous going out with him but it turned out that once I got to know him he wasn't that great. For instance, he bragged about being in shape and being triathalons. Well, he didn't look like he was in THAT great of shape so I looked up his name on the web. He came in either last or second to last place in every marathon that I found on the internet. There are some very polite people who don't go home after the winner crosses the finish line but sit patiently to wait for all the losers to make it to the finish line. I give the guy credit for finishing the marathon but if he lied about the marathon, he definitely would lie about other things. He told me had a huge penis -:laugh: well I bet he's bluffing about that one also. He keeps calling and I told him I would go out with him if the head that sits on top of his shoulders instead of between his legs want's to see me! He hasn't called since. I don't care!:eek:

Hugs and hope I made you chuckle also today!!!
Gloria

Another one of my favorite sayings "It is better to travel with hope and optimism in your heart than to arrive." In other words, sometimes fantasy are much better than reality!!

 

[ms spock]

LMAO@Gloria

Oh I do chat to him but normal chat stuff. I am a excitable, friendly, loud, inclusive and I have a face that lights up.
People like that.

New Scientist has a dating site on their site. Yes New Scientist! I don't know whether it is a spoof or not.

Dead Link Removed

I don't even know if we are allowed to paste urls on this forum.

Anyway have a look. Some of it is witty.
ms spock

 

[Sandra]

Dear Sandra,

Also in real life as well! I spoke to my psychriatrist at length about how hard it is to pick psychopaths and sociopaths today in my sesssion. These are clever and tricky people who full many people - at least we have some idea that they exist - people who haven't done the type of work we have done have no idea at all. Poor them.

ms spock

Another response to this Ms Spock. You will probably find most abusers etc are a Jekyl/Hyde actor. I know all of my imediate family were all guilty of this. And they were all abusers.

 

[Sandra]

He told me had a huge penis -:laugh: well I bet he's bluffing about that one also. He keeps calling and I told him I would go out with him if the head that sits on top of his shoulders instead of between his legs want's to see me! He hasn't called since. I don't care!:eek:

You go girl. ;)

 

[Gloria]

I went to to visit someone at at the biggest mental hospital in Chicago. I was sitting in the waiting room and had the most lovely conversation with the most handsome and interesting man. He was so impressive and educated!!! Then visiting hour was over and was ready to meet my friend who was visiting her brother when the nurse called this "incredibly fabulous" man to come back into the ward. He was a patient!!! I will never forget that! I would have never guessed! I had seen and met John Gacy many times because he lived only a few blocks from me and had an account at the same bank in the neighborhood. He was so polite to me. I never would have guessed he was onen of worst serial killers that ever lived. After that, I don't know how I continue to be the most gregarious and friendly person that you could ever meet. I can take an elevator ride with someone and become friends.

All I can say is that you just can't tell!!

 

[Gloria]

You go girl. ;)

Update...... My handsome and sexy friend immediately decided to use the head on his shoulders and invited to dinner at a very expensive restaurant on Friday (if I choose to accompany him). He is a mensa so may the head on his shoulders is a bit smarter than the head between his legs. I can't say about all men!!! I love men! I don't want to offend men!!! :laugh:

 

[Gloria]

I was so afriad to offend men. I am going to be totally honest. I worked on a project for the emergency radio system in Australia when I was a project manager and we (women) had to take a class on how not to offend men in Australia because Australia's culture (so they said) was very male dominated and women were to be very submissive. There I said it. But Anthony, you are such a sweetie!!!! I didn't go to Australia because I wouldn't leave my young children but I would have liked to see for myself how Australian men treated me as a project manager.
Hugs,
Gloria

 

[anthony]

I don't know where your people got that mentality about Australia... not exactly what I see as a male here. Women are treated extremely equal here actually... not sure why that would be noted in another country.

If you went into the country, then men are more dominant... yet I believe that is the same in most countries, being country folk live to more older style living rules... yet even country changes and women do equal roles as men. Women have become a majority in the work force in Australia, with more males changing roles and performing the home duties and women going to work... as many often earn more money than their male partners.

Go into a mine, then its going to be 99.9% male oriented. Go into a hospital and its going to be majority females. Go into a therapy organisation and its going to be primarily 99% female. Every job role here has its majorities... corporate Australia though is quite a mixed bag nowadays.