What I forget to include is that my therapist told me that I have ptsd from childhood, based on neglect, verbal abuse, some physical by todays standards.
That's exactly the problem... therapists don't have the training or expertise to make such statements, especially if the person doesn't feel like something was traumatic within their past. That is a therapist inflicting their personal views and/or beliefs onto the client, which is so far wrong its just not funny.
Growing up as kids seen different rules. We still had the cane across the hand or arse when I was at primary school. It didn't cause me PTSD... I knew what the punishment was, I accepted it... mum or dad would smack us across the arse, or get the belt across the backside. That was "normal" to get when you did something really naughty as a kid in Australia.
A therapist cannot inflict what politically correct nonsense has evolved to todays standards, then use that as a gauge and shift it backwards on a client to their childhood... when childhood normalcy was different. The key word is, normalcy.
You don't become an adult and suddenly think, "wow, all that stuff that was normal in childhood was abusive." That is not how the brain works. Instead you hear adults say, because they accepted normalcy, to current generation things such as, "back in my day, you would have had your arse kicked for that." Such statements we are all familiar with, and every generation will continue to repeat, as generations are different in how discipline is handled.
Australia went all PC on smacking kids. Now, social pressures are actually reverting back to being acceptable to lightly smack a child across the backside when they play-up, because kids are getting out of control due to no discipline or repercussions for their actions. Society is shifting backwards... yet we now have a generation of a decade plus that were anti-smacking kids, so they didn't get disciplined as much as the next generation will, due to reverting socially as what is normal.
PTSD is very specifically stated as existing for "abnormal" life events, not any event expected or deemed normal by societies views. Emotions, observations and personal beliefs and/or values have nothing to do with diagnostic medicine. This is the problem, as psychologists have no diagnostic training, so they use empathy and compassion to diagnose. That is valid for therapy, but not diagnosis.
Hence how it comes back to, only psychiatrists actually have the qualification, training and experience to accurately diagnose mental health. Anything from lesser qualification is not accurate, and you could be telling yourself you have PTSD when you don't.