Wanting A 'pause' Button On Life

[Ice_Fire]

I just need a couple of days out. Doing nothing. Just, sorting myself out and getting my strength back, instead of faffing around with everyone and everything else.

I just want everything to be put on hold, just for 48 hours so that I can maybe rest and maybe deal with how I'm feeling. Which in a word, is awful. I keep going but inside I just want to scream 'stop!' I can't take any more stress right now.

Anyone relate? How can I get everyone to get off my case for a while? :(

 

[matthios]

I'm fairly certain this is why they invented Vegas... :)

 

[Ice_Fire]

Haha! Brilliant! :p Thanks for at least making me laugh! Got a spare, ooh, I dunno, £500 I could have?

 

[matthios]

I wish I had any spare money. I have 0 coming in per month and, with legal fees, around 3k going out. I think I'm going to be homeless in a couple of months.

Anyway- even though my post was *somewhat* tongue in cheek, I would encourage you into taking a little vacation where you can just get away from everyone and everything for a couple of days...

 

[Ice_Fire]

:( I'm sorry, that's a really cr*p financial situation to be in.

Yeah, I would love to just pack a bag and go for a little while.

 

[matthios]

Do it! I mean, provided there isn't a work/caring for others issue. If so? plan around it? Sure, your trip doesn't get to be as spontaneous, but you're not exactly looking for "fun" just down-time... fair trade.

 

[piratelady]

For at least one day on the weekend, I stay home, I don't answer my phone for anyone. I just do what I want to do for the day. Maybe something like that would help?

 

[cherryblossom]

That's why people with PTSD often isolate, push people away and just want to be left alone.

Can you explan any of that to the people who are placing demands on you? I think they need to understand that you need some alone time. Maybe with school and stuff you might have to wait until the weekend, but with regards to friends and family it would be good if you could explain to them that you just want to be on your own for a day or so, to do your own thing. perhaps you could agree a compromise by arranging to text or call once a day or whatever suits. Then hopefully they won't be offended or overly concerned now or in the future, when you feel this way.

 

[Ice_Fire]

That's why people with PTSD often isolate, push people away and just want to be left alone.

Yeah, this is exactly what I want to do right now. To be honest, school, or at least my tutor, seems to get it and the pressure's been taken off a little bit. But it's family that's the problem.

I think I shall send everyone who usually contacts me, making demands of me (mum and dad) a text saying that I'm fine but I won't be answering my phone for a day or two.

 

[KatB]

I understand your situation. It's frustrating. But unlike you, I stay home almost all the time. I find it very difficult to get out and do something. I lack the motivation to do anything, which I know is not good but its like, everything is much more harder to do since the energy is not there, it just isn't. Look at me now, I should be sleeping but I can't. I do everything I know and nothing works.

Anyways, I agree with cherryblossom- that's exactly why we push people away and isolate. People demand a lot more from you. I wish I can be in your shoes of just doing things for myself... you should do it.

 

[ms spock]

I just need a couple of days out. Doing nothing. Just, sorting myself out and getting my strength back, instead of faffing around with everyone and everything else.

Anyone relate? How can I get everyone to get off my case for a while? :(

Oh yes I can relate!

Time out is important.

Can you check out with people are they contacting you a lot or demanding your time because they are worried about you? Explain you need time and will text or email and enforce the time out!

 

[Ice_Fire]

Thanks Ms Spock. Sadly, no, they're not demanding my time because they care at all. It's my parents (abusers, ****s, whatever you want to call them) wanting me to sort their lives out for them, and, as they are deaf with little to no social support, I don't have a lot of choice in the matter. :(

But you're right, the time out is important anyway; it can wait for a bit.