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When we had to move we had to get rid of our two precious dogs and six of our precious cats. I will never forget how rotten I felt about the whole thing. My life was full of responsibilities and I needed to simplify for the move. We could not take them with us. I grieved and still grieve. All of our animals loved us. They loved their life with us.

I can understand your need to simplify your life. You sound very overwhelmned like I was at the time.

We could not take them with us. Now that we have settled down, we got another dog and a cat. We raised them from young ones. I am so glad we have them. It is still hard to be responsible for them. But they are so worth it. We had never been without animals before in all of our time together. It was really erie and spooky. It did not feel right.

We will keep it at two animals but I am glad we have them.

I hope you will be able to get rid of your cats and not suffer any regrets. I hope the rest of your life will be simplified as well. I hope you can make a plan to do that for yourself. Good luck.
 
When we had to move we had to get rid of our two precious dogs and six of our precious cats. I will never forget how rotten I felt about the whole thing. My life was full of responsibilities and I needed to simplify for the move. We could not take them with us. I grieved and still grieve. All of our animals loved us. They loved their life with us.

Gizmo, I'm so sorry.

In 1991, when we left South Africa to come back to England. We had to take our 2 dogs and 2 cats to the vets to be put to sleep. Not one of them was under 10, we couldn't separate them or bring them with us. H and I stayed in the room with them whilst the vet, one be one put them to sleep.

I still cry when I think of them, so trusting. We told our girls that they had been rehomed. A couple of years ago, my youngest (22) asked me about them. We were in a restaurant, I just started crying.

She was so understanding and couldn't believe we had kept it from her all these years.

I know it was the right thing to do and H and I stayed with them till the end, but it is still so hard.
 
Thank you so much KP. I so appreciate you sharing your tragic story with me. It haunts me still. Late on I found I could have kept the two dogs.

My husband was a full time job at the time with halluciantions and delusions all of the time. He was daily accusing me of all sorts of horrible things. I was very alone without any support. It was a really bad time in my life. Anyway thank you very much again for sharing your painful experiences with me. I do not feel so alone in it anymore. Bless you for that. I hurt so when I think about it. It was such a terrible day.
 
Well, I have cats because many years ago, my then 12 year old daughter thought that a cat would make her happy. The cats don't bother me at all and I will care for them until they pass away. I just don't think they comfort me in any way. It's not like I kick them or anything. I don't want to get rid of them because they do seem to enjoy their life. I was born an animal lover. I think maybe when my life is less complicated I might return to being one again.
 
I would say about 90%. I have two dogs and two cats. I am closer to one dog, Buddy, and one cat, sparkles. Sparkles actually adopted me instead of the kids. He likes to cuddle up within my arms when I go to sleep at night. Buddy was suppose to be my son's dog. She sleeps in my bed and follows me around. When I wake up in the morning, as soon as I stretch, she jumps up to my face to give me kisses and is really excited that I'm up. When I am sad, she seems to sense that and will come over by me and cry until I let her into my lap then she snuggles up to me.

I did live as an adult, once without pets. It was a very lonely feeling coming home to nothing.

I am fortunate that my husband does the majority of the taking care of them. He knows how difficult it is for me at times. I couldn't imagine being without them.
 
I don't know if I can put a percentage on it. We had a family dog, a big lab mix that was just wonderful. After I was first diagnosed with PTSD and depression, I kept odd hours when I came home for college breaks and being the only one awake in a silent house didn't exactly help my mental state, but she would stay up with me and just lay quietly in the room. My family always knew when I was getting bad because she would lay either at the foot of the stairs or outside my room in the hallway like she was keeping watch all night (she preferred to sleep in my parents' bed downstairs). We had to put her to sleep a few years ago, and I moved to apartments where I couldn't afford a dog. Just being around other people's animals would give me a little lift (most are friendly and willing to let you pet their dog when you are walking.)

I just adopted a little hound mix last month with my partner, and he completes our little family. He makes me go outside everyday for walks, which is good for me because otherwise I would just sit in the house. He is so loving and friendly that it warms my heart just to see him curled on the couch beside me.
 
I can't live without having a pet. Interestingly enough, I got my cat as a kitten as gift shortly after my PTSD began. I had no control in my life and basically my world as I knew it had fallen apart around me - including my family. I thought that having a pet of my own would give me something to have responsibility for, to let me have control over some aspect of my life. You know where it's MY cat and I MAKE the decisions and nobody else. To be honest at first having a kitten stressed me out super bad, because she would cry went I went to work, and I wouldn't let her sleep in my bed for the first while because you know - babies have accidents!

My mom actually tried to pressure me to take her back to the humane society because I was stressed out about it - which made it even worse. My boyfriend at the time insisted I keep it, and that it wasn't a mistake. So I did.

Nine years later, I love her to pieces. I live alone, so it is nice to always have her there, and when I am sad she picks up on it. She is also very protective of me... which is kind of weird for a cat. I've never had a bond like this with an animal before. Crazy cat lady, and proud of it!
 
Kittiekittie, My first cat that I got when I got my first place definitely watched over me. She would greet me at the door whenever she heard me come home. She hated my ex husband. She always ran away whenever she heard him. Except for one time when he came home very late and I didn't know where he was. I was sitting in a chair waiting for him. She sat behind me on the chair. I'm pretty sure she was giving him the same death stare I was when he walked in the door.

My present husband she took a liking to when she first met him.
 
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I don't think I'd be alive today if I didn't have furry friend-family members with me. I have a lovely sweet dog and four cats. They help me sleep, they help me laugh, they help me put an end to a bad day. They help me get up on time to get to work. The one thing they don't do so well is help me clean the house (then, again, they leave me all sorts of reminders that I should sweep the floor!).
 
I have always had animals, my entire life, except when I was moving around for 2 years when I ran away from home, but even then I was in constant contact with either dogs, cats or horses.

Over the past 10 years, my partner and I have adopted 4 cats, the most recent one being last christmas.

Sascha is a huge black and white longhaired 10yo cat whom I've had since he was 5, who doesn't really like being patted, but loves being picked up and snuggling up on your shoulder.
He likes to eat hot potato chips, but they must be salted or he won't have a bar of it!
He gets upset quite easily, and will find a hidden spot to pee in if he doesn't have enough food, water, clean litter, or hates visitors that come. He loves my sister and brother because they love to cuddle him.

Pestilence aka Pest is a slinky grey and white cat who loves eating the sticky side of envelopes, rolling in bleach and sitting in small boxes whilst standing still like a statue, she is about 9, and hand raised from 4 weeks old by my partner who took pity on an abandoned litter.

Meeka aka Meekazoid is a sleek black cat who I found wandering at a train station at 5 weeks old, he was extremely ill with cat flu, and nearly died on me.
He grew up being hand fed, sleeping by my neck or side for warmth, and taking showers with me because of the humidity which helped him breathe. He is the kindest, most gentle and cuddly cat I've ever known.

His favourite thing to do is to sneak up on your lap while you are watching TV, first he'll sit on the armrest, then put both paws on your leg, and then slowly slink his way under the radar until he's curled up in your lap and you are patting him without even realising when he got there!

He gives himself away by letting out a triumphant purr and rolling on his side to have his tummy rubbed, then realises he gave himself away and has the decency to look sheepish. If you scratch just above his hind leg on his flank he starts purring, stretching out like a slinky toy to get more of the scratch, and then literally falls over when the pleasure becomes too much.

Neo, aka Nano or the Nanobyte, is a small, slinky pure white fluffball with a light patch of grey on his head, he was rescued at christmas last year when I was browsing through gumtree and saw an ad stating that this man's cat had gotten pregnant again, and if someone didn't take the kittens he would either drown or dump them.
So I promptly travelled 4 hours by train, sexed the kittens, grabbed a male (neutering for females is damned expensive) and convinced him (I hope) to leave the kittens at a local vet.

So I had this kitten hiding inside my jacket collar, peering out with massive big blue eyes and hissing at every passerby who jumped with fright, not expecting a fellow traveller on public transport to hiss at them! He kept cuddling into my neck, or into the crook of my elbow, and still does it when he is scared.
His favourite thing to do is to shred toilet paper rolls, knead my ballet flat shoes until they look like a massacred pin cushion, and eat blueberry muffins.

He HATES his tummy being touched, so the amount of times that I have gone to pat a cat who jumped up on the bed whilst I'm half asleep, and promptly had my hand MANGLED.....well I've lost count!
But that being said, he loves to wait until you're cross legged in front of the laptop, and then he'll come and curl up in the space between your legs and bite your ankle every time you move.

He also doesn't like it when you twitch in your sleep, as it wakes him up, so my partner has been woken a fair few times with a healthy bite, through the blanket, to his big toe.

I love my cats, and as much as I love dogs and horses, the personalities I get off each cat are vastly different, and I'm never bored.

It might also be worth mentioning the time that my partner was sleeping.....and some men wake up with a certain 'condition' *ahem* in the morning......and if it *twitches* under the sheet, the poor innocent kitty may well mistaken it for a new cat toy..........I've never seen someone sit up so fast from a solid sleep, I laughed until I cried.

I actually get anxiety and really stressed if I fall asleep in a strange place and my partner and cats aren't there, I feel really alone because there is nothing like the warmth of a cat against your side to help you fall asleep.
 
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