He Keeps Contacting Me

[Abstract]

Sues,

I just read this whole thread and I am so sorry to hear of the position you find yourself in. Good for you that you are fighting and winning!

 

[Whitneys story]

Suez, Stay your ground. I of all people know that a few bad police do not mean they are all corrupt. It just takes one good one.

Your Ex is obviously mentally ill. If he can't have you no one else can. Be safe. Never under any circumstances meet him any where. Nor allow your son too! He is now like a caged animal and likely will act out even more.

The truth hurts but find all the strength. He is now being judged by his peers and it is not your fault but he will see it this way!

Just because he turns his gun in does not mean he can not acquire another. Lived through it, we can celebrate later when the force gets him evaluated.

No it is not easy but possible, no one deserves this horror! Behemoth Hugs, Whitney

 

[ms spock]

Hi Sues,

I wonder if there is any office who can help that bypasses the police? Maybe seeing a Human Rights Lawyer? yours have definately been violated.

Good on you Sues, for continuing to follow it through in the face of apathy and the lack of enforcement. Keep up the good work. Keep yourself safe.

In Australia Sues, we have a Police Ombudsman, do you have a similar service or department?

Good on you for going back until you got the police to do what they were meant to do in the first place. Though it is most worrying that they didn't get his guns off him straight away. Especially as he was stalking you. I am so glad he won't be allowed to carry a concealed weapon anymore! There is obviously a lot of room here for improvement.

Today is White Ribbon Day in my area. We are all wearing White Ribbons to bring attention to Domestic Violence in Wollongong today. Mostly it was men selling the white ribbons which I found heartening. I made a donation and I am wearing the White Ribbon. First it was for myself and the child I was and then it was for you and all the other women who are struggling with domestic violence.

You have done well to keep going back to a system that hasn't been that supportive or helpful towards you. That is proactive and brave! Well done on your successes!

 

[Sues]

Thanks everyone!

You are certainly right Whitney. He's crazy and scary and we are staying away from him. Well, except for the court appearances that I have to make where he will be there too. I'm not looking forward to those. :sour:

 

[Sues]

First it was for myself and the child I was and then it was for you and all the other women who are struggling with domestic violence.

Aww, that's awesome.

 

[Sues]

Just an update on this situation. I went to court today for the hearing on the restraining order and I finally got it!

I was really stressing out over having to go to court and seeing my ex again and everything. I get really worried and stressed just thinking about any contact with him. It's very difficult for me. He was so controlling over me that I feel helpless when I'm near him. He is also very scary because of his anger and temper.

Every time I went to court before, my ex would wait for me to be alone and he would come up to me and threaten me and verbally abuse me. I don't have an attorney anymore, and I'm doing this all on my own.

So today I had my best friends husband meet me at the courthouse so that I wouldn't have to be alone with my ex. My ex saw us sitting there, assumed he was a boyfriend, and freaked out. He was so bad that they had us go first instead of 12th, and they called an extra sheriff into the court room to stand guard. They then had to detain him outside of the courtroom so I could leave.

I now have a 3 year domestic violence restraining order in place. Finally! I have been through hell these past few months and it's finally paid off. I don't know whether to cry or laugh, or both. Probably both.

 

[Nicolette]

Well done Sues!!!! :tup:

 

[ms spock]

Every time I went to court before, my ex would wait for me to be alone and he would come up to me and threaten me and verbally abuse me. I don't have an attorney anymore, and I'm doing this all on my own.

So today I had my best friends husband meet me at the courthouse so that I wouldn't have to be alone with my ex.

That is an excellent and smart strategy to protect yourself and manage the situation!

Well done!

I am so pleased you finally got what you needed, after all that effort!

 

[JustBe]

Time to celebrate Sues! :D

 

[Shellbell]

I am really happy for you Sues, that is such good news. I am really glad you had someone with you at the court.

It was definitely worth the effort and the stress :hug:

 

[Deleted member 12723]

I cannot imagine the intense feelings you had while you were at court. I am so glad that they called you in first and had a extra sheriff to detain him so you could leave safely. I am really glad you did not have to go alone. I celebrate with you. What an ordeal you have been through to get this order. I hope it helps.

I am glad that you have the order to keep the police on notice. I sure hope it has effects on your ex to stay away and leave you alone.

My heart goes out to you what you have been through on your journey. I hope you get a measure of peace of mind after getting the order. Hugs.

 

[Sues]

I am so glad that they called you in first

Thanks everyone. I'm glad we got to go first too. But the reason we did is because my ex went to the sheriff and demanded it. I guess he was so pissed to see me with my "boyfriend" that he went crazy outside the courtroom with the sheriff and they figured they should get him out of there as soon as possible.