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He Keeps Contacting Me

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I spent all day today (7 hours) at police stations, courthouses, and the sheriffs department trying to get someone to enforce the TRO I have on my ex! The system sucks.

After finally getting a copy of the proof of service, I sat for over 3 hours at the local PD waiting for an officer so I could tell them my ex did not turn in his guns. No one cared at all. I got an officer to call him and ask him if he still had his guns. He did of course.

The officer came out and told me that my ex was bringing the guns into the station and that basically that's all there was to it. Well, no, that's not it. My ex was in violation of the restraining order for not turning them in within the first 24 hours of being served. Did the police care? No. And they refused to file a police report. They merely filed an "interview" report. That means they talked to me.

So once again, my ex broke the law and got away with it.

The system is set up to protect the offender and to keep the victim from being able to do anything at all.
 
My son and I stood our ground and they took it to the watch commander. They still refuse to file on my ex. It sucks, but right now there's nothing else I can do.

One good thing is that my ex knows I won't ever back down again. Every time he's done something I've gone after him and responded full force in any way that I can! I haven't been able to do anything, but at least he knows I won't back down and that he can't intimidate me.

Oh, and I saw him tonight. He showed up at the police station while we were still there. The police are idiots. They couldn't tell him to wait an hour before coming in so that I wouldn't have to run into him. Well, he looked horrible, miserable, and pissed off. :D
 
Thanks Jaret. I don't know if he wants something from me. I do know he wants to hurt me/kill me. If I go away, then he sees all of his problems going away. He thinks I took his son from him. He can't see that he ever did anything wrong and he can't understand that my son and I were miserable with him. He says we had a good life and he thinks I'm making all of this up.
 
Hi Sues,

I wonder if there is any office who can help that bypasses the police? Maybe seeing a Human Rights Lawyer? yours have definately been violated.

It is very good new about your temp order though. Be brave, he has to learn that he should get on with his own life and realise that you are not going to let him into yours again.

Best wishes
Saffy :)
 
My son and I went back to the police station yesterday. It was much better. The watch commander actually did what was supposed to be done. A crime report had been taken after all. And now, they took another one and the DA (district attorney) will be getting involved in the violation of the TRO. :)

They are also contacting his police dept that he retired from and informing them that he still has a police ID that states he can carry a "CCW", a concealed weapon. So they are going to get that revoked as well.

Finally, I got the help and support I should have gotten to begin with!
 
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