What To Never Say To A Ptsd Sufferer

[goa way]

But that happened weeks, months,years ago. Oh, its just menopause. It could never happen to me, I'm too strong. You still got that? I know, me and the girls will come around with a bottle and cheer you up. What part of f... off don't you understand!

 

[Mercy]

Hang in there.

Dear Gizmo, "Hang in there." is a dangerous saying for me. I was trained very carefully to follow orders. I still have enough of the Stocklom syndrome to follow directions. If I hear this when I am seriously suicidal, I am afraid I might obey.

"GOD won't put more on you than you can handle." Really? Really! Really?! Sure doesn't feel that way to me.

Lookn4peace, This expression is ridiclous to me. God doesn't make us suffer. The people, created with free will, make and made us suffer. God is with us while we suffer to protect our souls, but he will not stop anyone from their own freewill choices.

 

[Venusian]

God is with us while we suffer to protect our souls, but he will not stop anyone from their own freewill choices.

I have never heard that sentiment said so well. I never like the phrase about handling things. Thank you.

 

[Abstract]

I was trained very carefully to follow orders.

Oh grief Mercy! :wideeyed: That will definitely motivate me not to say it. I hope.

 

[Sailorgal]

I'm glad this was pointed out as everyone has different triggers. Mental note: don't use the above phrase....

 

[Tanishq]

I was trained very carefully to follow orders.

As a kid, I took everyone's order. But deep down I used to feel bad. It used to hurt me, I don't know why.

 

[Sailorgal]

You are an independent, free thinker my friend. You have been oppressed to be accepted as yourself. But alas, no more!!!! :)

 

[Tanishq]

Thank you for reminding me that Sailorgal. :)

 

[goa way]

I hate it when you're having a real down day. 3 hours sleep, stressed to the max, feeling like crap etc. Yet you force yourself to get dressed and drag your feet down to the supermarket, where some perky little shop assistant will ask ..and how are we today? good?

 

[goa way]

Sorry Guys, I used to be a nice person, I also used to like people. I used to always wear a smile, and work, and tell lots of jokes. Now I am my opposite.

 

[Mercy]

Dear Abstract and sailorgal,
Thank you for your many kindness as above.

Please don't worry about me. Use the words you need to use to make your personal needs known and shared. It is I who must work out my own shield against my programming.

Thank you both so very much for your support, honesty and caring. I need it sometimes just to make it through.

 

[goa way]

I really hate it when you can't remember something when talking to someone, and they say casually, oh, that happens to me all the time.